Update: Coworker who grabbed me

[Anonymous]

I posted here about a coworker who grabbed me and flicked his tongue in and out quickly, super close to my face.

It’s a blue collar job.

I stopped looking at him so he won’t talk to me. And it worked.

However now he wont stop staring. And he’ll be quiet but if he walks past me he starts singing or makes a noise. This is the kind of behavior where anything I do will make me look crazy. Because he doesn’t act this way infront of others.

Would you quit?

[Anonymous]

Shout "GROSS! STOP IT YOU F*****!!" really loudly. I doubt anyone will misunderstand what's going on.

[Anonymous]

Why not get on record with HR. If he is doing to you odds are he is doing/did it to other women

[Anonymous]

I didn’t see the previous posting on this, but this is all harassment behavior and is reportable to HR. The issue of grabbing you is potentially assault.

[Anonymous]

I'm contact HR. He is going to murder you after work or even in the building one day.

[Anonymous]

He grabbed you physically? That's assault. If it happened as you say it did, tell your employer, in writing, where, when, and by whom you were assaulted and tell them you are likely to contact the police. You will be asked, by them and if you contact the, police, if there are any witnesses. They are not required, but obviously strengthen your claim. You will be asked why you didn't report it sooner. Say while you felt threatened, you have only learned the act qualified as assault and now want to report it to police. Keep in mind, being creepy or gross does not violate any law, but grabbing you physically is assault.

[Anonymous]

Don’t quit. He’s probably doing it to other people he needs consequences. HR!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He grabbed you physically? That's assault. If it happened as you say it did, tell your employer, in writing, where, when, and by whom you were assaulted and tell them you are likely to contact the police. You will be asked, by them and if you contact the, police, if there are any witnesses. They are not required, but obviously strengthen your claim. You will be asked why you didn't report it sooner. Say while you felt threatened, you have only learned the act qualified as assault and now want to report it to police. Keep in mind, being creepy or gross does not violate any law, but grabbing you physically is assault.

Op needs to deal with this co worker and go to HR, but people like you claiming assault make women sound like snowflake idiots.

[Anonymous]

Are you insane? Go to HR immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He grabbed you physically? That's assault. If it happened as you say it did, tell your employer, in writing, where, when, and by whom you were assaulted and tell them you are likely to contact the police. You will be asked, by them and if you contact the, police, if there are any witnesses. They are not required, but obviously strengthen your claim. You will be asked why you didn't report it sooner. Say while you felt threatened, you have only learned the act qualified as assault and now want to report it to police. Keep in mind, being creepy or gross does not violate any law, but grabbing you physically is assault.

Are you Gen z?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He grabbed you physically? That's assault. If it happened as you say it did, tell your employer, in writing, where, when, and by whom you were assaulted and tell them you are likely to contact the police. You will be asked, by them and if you contact the, police, if there are any witnesses. They are not required, but obviously strengthen your claim. You will be asked why you didn't report it sooner. Say while you felt threatened, you have only learned the act qualified as assault and now want to report it to police. Keep in mind, being creepy or gross does not violate any law, but grabbing you physically is assault.

Op needs to deal with this co worker and go to HR, but people like you claiming assault make women sound like snowflake idiots.

DP, and a lawyer, but what the OP describes falls within the legal definition of assault. There isn't another way to describe it. Actually both the grabbing and the lewd tongue flicking thing near her ear both constitute assault in most jurisdictions (some places would categorize the grabbing as battery, which I'm sure would make you crazy).

I cannot imagine why calling something what it is would make a woman sound like a "snowflake idiot."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He grabbed you physically? That's assault. If it happened as you say it did, tell your employer, in writing, where, when, and by whom you were assaulted and tell them you are likely to contact the police. You will be asked, by them and if you contact the, police, if there are any witnesses. They are not required, but obviously strengthen your claim. You will be asked why you didn't report it sooner. Say while you felt threatened, you have only learned the act qualified as assault and now want to report it to police. Keep in mind, being creepy or gross does not violate any law, but grabbing you physically is assault.

Op needs to deal with this co worker and go to HR, but people like you claiming assault make women sound like snowflake idiots.

DP, and a lawyer, but what the OP describes falls within the legal definition of assault. There isn't another way to describe it. Actually both the grabbing and the lewd tongue flicking thing near her ear both constitute assault in most jurisdictions (some places would categorize the grabbing as battery, which I'm sure would make you crazy).

I cannot imagine why calling something what it is would make a woman sound like a "snowflake idiot."

Stop trying to play lawyer.

Assault in most jurisdictions is an action with intent to cause physical harm. If op says she is ‘going to the police!!’ she will look nuts and lose credibility. A woman is able to express discomfort about this situation - and it was certainly wrong and highly inappropriate- without unnecessarily exaggerating what happened.

[Anonymous]

He sounds actually crazy. You need to tell HR and co-workers. You need to surround yourself with people and not be alone while at work.

Look for a different job. He sounds like he will lead up to scarier behavior.

[Anonymous]

Go to supervisor, HR and / or the owner. He sounds dangerous. If they don't do anything, quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He grabbed you physically? That's assault. If it happened as you say it did, tell your employer, in writing, where, when, and by whom you were assaulted and tell them you are likely to contact the police. You will be asked, by them and if you contact the, police, if there are any witnesses. They are not required, but obviously strengthen your claim. You will be asked why you didn't report it sooner. Say while you felt threatened, you have only learned the act qualified as assault and now want to report it to police. Keep in mind, being creepy or gross does not violate any law, but grabbing you physically is assault.

Op needs to deal with this co worker and go to HR, but people like you claiming assault make women sound like snowflake idiots.

DP, and a lawyer, but what the OP describes falls within the legal definition of assault. There isn't another way to describe it. Actually both the grabbing and the lewd tongue flicking thing near her ear both constitute assault in most jurisdictions (some places would categorize the grabbing as battery, which I'm sure would make you crazy).

I cannot imagine why calling something what it is would make a woman sound like a "snowflake idiot."

Stop trying to play lawyer.

Assault in most jurisdictions is an action with intent to cause physical harm. If op says she is ‘going to the police!!’ she will look nuts and lose credibility. A woman is able to express discomfort about this situation - and it was certainly wrong and highly inappropriate- without unnecessarily exaggerating what happened.

Define “playing lawyer”. PP is apparently an actual lawyer.