If You Divorced, And Your Ex Shacked Up...

[Anonymous]

with an old ex from college within 6 months, how confident would you be that they'd cheated while you were married?

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t matter. Move on.

[Anonymous]

75%

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be confident. They probably realized they were both single on FB or something. Men move on pretty quickly.

[Anonymous]

you can get 18 months of detailed previous cell phone records online with your cell provider.
get them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t matter. Move on.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: with an old ex from college within 6 months, how confident would you be that they'd cheated while you were married?

Why does it matter anymore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: with an old ex from college within 6 months, how confident would you be that they'd cheated while you were married?

Why does it matter anymore?

And why are you monitoring who your ex sleeps and lives with?

[Anonymous]

We don't care what an ex is doing.

MYOB

[Anonymous]

NP- It totally does matter.
A divorce because your spouse says, I'm not happy, I don't feel love from you, you're not a good spouse, etc is all BS when you learn they have an AP. Then the gaslighting and abuse is over. The AP and their betrayal was the reason they left, not you or anything you did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't be confident. They probably realized they were both single on FB or something. Men move on pretty quickly.

You need to let this go. It also may be painful to accept but maybe these two people are actually fated for each other, and they realized it.

It's painful. But stop focusing on them and find your own life. Being angry with them will only punish you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't be confident. They probably realized they were both single on FB or something. Men move on pretty quickly.

You need to let this go. It also may be painful to accept but maybe these two people are actually fated for each other, and they realized it.

It's painful. But stop focusing on them and find your own life. Being angry with them will only punish you.

It's painful, but completely normal, to want to know how/why you got dumped. But you will get to a point where it just doesn't matter anymore. I am only just getting there now and it's been 2 years. Before, I wanted every damn detail to try to make sense of things. In the end, I am no closer to understanding than I was before, because I am never going to get an honest answer that isn't some combo of revisionist history and BS. It was a conscious choice on my part to practice radical acceptance – it is what it is – to try to keep me from being that bitter dumped person who gets stuck in their divorce story and never moves on. It hasn't been easy. I'm still sad, but a lot less prone to spiraling. Good luck, OP.