Just hosted a bummer of a barbecue

[Anonymous]

Invited some new neighborhood-parent friends over, and everyone left by 8:15pm. Stilted conversation. I drank too much and blabbed about idiotic things to keep the conversation alive. My house is dumpy and I'm dumpy and I feel like a lump of nothing. Kids played but the adults all talked to one another while I tried to keep up and failed and I can see into the yard of one of the family's houses and it looks like a couple of the families just headed over there.

[Anonymous]

Eh it’s a start. Seriously. I feel the way you do when I haven’t hosted for awhile

[Anonymous]

Did you do the bbq work? People probably had more fun than you realize

[Anonymous]

Good on you for trying 👍

[Anonymous]

I'm sure it wasn't as bad as you think, OP. And if the mood is really off, people usually blame themselves and not someone else (unless they're nasty people).

Don't worry. You did what you could. If they were your friends before the party, they will still be your friends after!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you do the bbq work? People probably had more fun than you realize

I mean probably not if people headed out early to have an after party elsewhere. Sorry OP what a bummer.

[Anonymous]

I totally commend you for trying. People probably did appreciate it and if they didn’t they are just jerks. Don’t be down on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you do the bbq work? People probably had more fun than you realize

I mean probably not if people headed out early to have an after party elsewhere. Sorry OP what a bummer.

It’s possible they had a peeexisting thing (like maybe a going away party for someone OP doesn’t know) but cared enough about OP to try to come to her thing first. I wouldn’t automatically assume the worst.

[Anonymous]

Why is making adult friends hard. SO HARD. So awkward and alienating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you do the bbq work? People probably had more fun than you realize

I mean probably not if people headed out early to have an after party elsewhere. Sorry OP what a bummer.

8 is fine. They were probably trying to not overstay their welcome. It’s a good start

[Anonymous]

The kids played. That's the most important thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good on you for trying 👍

Agree! Many of us are too intimidated to host.

[Anonymous]

Next time, don’t drink so much and blab.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is making adult friends hard. SO HARD. So awkward and alienating.

This. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Not everyone needs to be a barbecue host OP. It’s optional. You don’t need to make new friends either.