Nervous about being a single parent
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Anonymous
| I need to leave or rather have him leave for the safety of the kids. I am nervous about being a single parent to a toddler and young infant. I have a stressful job. The thought feels overwhelming. Any tips? |
Anonymous
| You can do it. I remember how scared I was my ex said he didn’t really want to be a dad to our baby and then left. I panicked and freaked out. 20 years later, I have a wonderful relationship with my adult son. He’s in college now. It was very tiring doing everything by myself but it isn’t forever. They grow quickly. Teach them how to single themselves and you’ll be fine. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| You can do this. It’s better than the alternative. Arguing with your spouse all the time is not a good place for you to be. Get out. Be safe for you and your kids. |
Anonymous
You won’t be a single parent. You will be a divorced coparent who sees your kid 50% of the time. A single parent is only a widow or never had a partner. |
Anonymous
| Not sure what the issue is with terminology of using the term single parent. Not to go into details, but other parent not interested in having the kids (and should not be alone with them) |
Anonymous
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Ex came with problems and was the 2nd kid. Life got so much easier.
He actually got his act together when the kid got older. Then he acted like he is the best parent ever. |
Anonymous
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It’s easier than catering to a needy spouse.
Less mess, less food, less communications, less fights, less negotiation |
Anonymous
You again. Goooo awayyytt |
Anonymous
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It's hard - no way around it. HOWEVER - it is easier to be a single parent to 2 children than it is to be the only parenting person in a 2-parent household.
If your partner is truly dangerous, you will likely experience a big sigh of relief and things might actually get easier. |
Anonymous
Being the single parent won't be the hard part, protecting them from their father will be. What are the safety concerns? Do you have documentation? Have you talked to an attorney to get their thoughts? If the attorney thinks you won't get full custody, will your kids be safe during his parenting plan? |
Anonymous
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I was a single parent at 24 - you got this!
Honestly best time of my life. Men are such a burden. |
Anonymous
| Can you hire a nanny? Even if it's just a college student and even just for the summer? That'll help you through the transition. Do you have a village you can gather? Friends, siblings, parents, whomever? Reach out and tell people. |
Anonymous
Agree. What’s your money situation? Can you hire help? Have you done so in the past? |
Anonymous
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You can do this! Find a reliable babysitter or network of other single parents who you can trade childcare with. You may also need to look for a less stressful job or a job that is more family friendly. Keep things as simple as possible.
Assuming you are also 6:36, it sounds like the other parent won't fight for custody, so that will make things easier. If you can get documented sole legal custody, even better. |
Anonymous
| That’s not being a single parent. That’s just being divorced. |