Colleagues With No lives

[Anonymous]

No spouses, no kids, no hobbies, no church, no volunteering, honestly, I'm not sure they even have any friends.

All they have is work. And they choose to work 7 days a week

And they call you on Saturday mornings (while you're canoeing the Shennandoah with your sons) asking about absolutely meaningless trvial things (we work in automotive and aircraft parts supply chain management, not cancer research)..... how do you tell them to piss off?

This lady has done this three times now in the last two months and then 'complained' to our manager how I was 'unresponsive' on the weekend.

[Anonymous]

I’d clarify with the manager that there is no expectation that you are available for trivial stuff on weekends. Assuming not, I’d ask colleague to only use email on weekends and you’ll handle as needed. If that’s not respected, put that number on mute during non-work hours. I assume that word of any kind of actual emergency would not come from this person. If it would, ask them to text, not call. Nobody needs to call with non-urgent BS on the weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No spouses, no kids, no hobbies, no church, no volunteering, honestly, I'm not sure they even have any friends.

All they have is work. And they choose to work 7 days a week

And they call you on Saturday mornings (while you're canoeing the Shennandoah with your sons) asking about absolutely meaningless trvial things (we work in automotive and aircraft parts supply chain management, not cancer research)..... how do you tell them to piss off?

This lady has done this three times now in the last two months and then 'complained' to our manager how I was 'unresponsive' on the weekend.

What did your manager say?

[Anonymous]

If you can't shut this down, you have a manager problem. If you can, you don't have a problem at all.

[Anonymous]

Your manager should be handling this. You shouldn't answer her call.

[Anonymous]

Don’t pick up her calls. Why are you even answering the call? You finish what you do, then write a text: “hi, was unavailable. Saw your 25 missed calls, anything urgent?” Or hopefully she left voicemail, so you are free either to respond at night or first thing Monday AM in an email.

[Anonymous]

+1
Also when framing it to your manager, try to keep the "they have no lives/no friends/ whatever ever bitterness or superiority out of it. You seem emotional about that.

[Anonymous]

Don’t answer calls! Don’t text back, don’t engage. On Monday, tell them you don’t work on the weekends.

[Anonymous]

This depends on the expectations of your management, OP. Are you expected to work on weekends if needed?

Did you give the woman a document at 5pm Friday that she needs to turn around by Monday?

Etc

In some jobs it would be normal and expected to be responsive on the weekends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This depends on the expectations of your management, OP. Are you expected to work on weekends if needed?

Did you give the woman a document at 5pm Friday that she needs to turn around by Monday?

Etc

In some jobs it would be normal and expected to be responsive on the weekends.

Not for non-critical stuff. Otherwise you should get a new job.

[Anonymous]

Advise them that being bad at time management, making them work long hours on the weekend, is a bad look and you aren't going to take their calls. Tell them to and the manager they need a workshop on time management skills, so they can get their work done during working hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No spouses, no kids, no hobbies, no church, no volunteering, honestly, I'm not sure they even have any friends.

All they have is work. And they choose to work 7 days a week

And they call you on Saturday mornings (while you're canoeing the Shennandoah with your sons) asking about absolutely meaningless trvial things (we work in automotive and aircraft parts supply chain management, not cancer research)..... how do you tell them to piss off?

This lady has done this three times now in the last two months and then 'complained' to our manager how I was 'unresponsive' on the weekend.

Firstly, you have very little idea of my life outside work. You don't know whether I go to any house of worship or what religious practices I may or may not partake in. Secondly you have no idea if I have hobbies or volunteer or what if anything I do with any friends I may have bc I don't talk about thos things. Thirdly, you are not required to answer your phone on the weekends. So just let them leave a voicemail and you can respond when you're ready.

[Anonymous]

Send her dick pics whenever she does it and claim it was a hacker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t answer calls! Don’t text back, don’t engage. On Monday, tell them you don’t work on the weekends.

I work in a vey high compensate industry, and my manager expects me to respond within 15 minutes. Do I like it? NO but they pay me 450K/yr so I am willing to tolerate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No spouses, no kids, no hobbies, no church, no volunteering, honestly, I'm not sure they even have any friends.

All they have is work. And they choose to work 7 days a week

And they call you on Saturday mornings (while you're canoeing the Shennandoah with your sons) asking about absolutely meaningless trvial things (we work in automotive and aircraft parts supply chain management, not cancer research)..... how do you tell them to piss off?

This lady has done this three times now in the last two months and then 'complained' to our manager how I was 'unresponsive' on the weekend.

Firstly, you have very little idea of my life outside work. You don't know whether I go to any house of worship or what religious practices I may or may not partake in. Secondly you have no idea if I have hobbies or volunteer or what if anything I do with any friends I may have bc I don't talk about thos things. Thirdly, you are not required to answer your phone on the weekends. So just let them leave a voicemail and you can respond when you're ready.

Except PP said the woman complains to the manager if OP doesn’t respond on weekends.

OP, what did your manager say? And have you told directly this woman that you work hard during the week so that you can have time off on the weekends? Let her know that Monday morning is when you will respond to anything work-related that isn’t a complete dire emergency.