I am "meeting the parents" as a 38yo

[Anonymous]

I'm meeting my boyfriend's parents tomorrow night. I was with my exH from 18-35yo so it feels strange to be doing this as an adult now. The 4 of us are going to dinner at a nicer restaurant then an art exhibit. They live out of town and are specifically (excitedly) coming in town to meet me. Boyfriend is 41, the parents are in their late 70s.

BF mentioned his mom was asking how old my kids are and what they're into and that she got them a little something. Do I get his parents something? Offer to pay for or split dinner?

Who has done this as an adult and how did it go?

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend should pick up the check. Don't get them anything but your kids can write thank you notes. I did this at 37, and i just remember my future MIL staring at me. Turns out, she's really shallow and wanted to make sure she have beautiful grandchildren. Hahaha! People are so weird. Be confident, you're your own woman. You're a grown up just like them.

[Anonymous]

They sound lovely. You split dinner unless someone insists on inviting everyone. You demur on the gifts for the kids (it's too early), but you thank them graciously if they arrive with gifts. And you act like an kind and attentive individual. Pick an elegant outfit that goes with your coloring. Don't wear too much make-up or jewelry - "natural look" is best.

That's all. It's going to be fine, OP.

[Anonymous]

Offer to pay, split dinner but dont get them anything. Don't bring up politics, religion or diet. Ask about how they met, what their son enjoyed as a kid, places they've enjoyed visiting or living.

[Anonymous]

I think it would be nice to get them a little gift, say chocolates from a well known local place.

[Anonymous]

No to the gift. At this point it's not anyone's first rodeo. The boyfriend or his father will cover the check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No to the gift. At this point it's not anyone's first rodeo. The boyfriend or his father will cover the check.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend should pick up the check. Don't get them anything but your kids can write thank you notes. I did this at 37, and i just remember my future MIL staring at me. Turns out, she's really shallow and wanted to make sure she have beautiful grandchildren. Hahaha! People are so weird. Be confident, you're your own woman. You're a grown up just like them.

+2

[Anonymous]

You need to dump your bf and get back with your ex-h for the sake of your kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to dump your bf and get back with your ex-h for the sake of your kids

He left me for a man so I believe that ship has sufficiently sunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to dump your bf and get back with your ex-h for the sake of your kids

He left me for a man so I believe that ship has sufficiently sunk.

You sent that troll right back under its bridge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to dump your bf and get back with your ex-h for the sake of your kids

He left me for a man so I believe that ship has sufficiently sunk.

Sorry to hear that. Hope he repents

[Anonymous]

1. you can gently demur the gift for your kids.

2. If they give one anyway accept graciously and your kids can send a thank yo note.


3. Let your boyfriend worry about paying- he know the dynamic with his parents best.

4. You don't need to bring a gift for his parents. The one exception to this for me is if they are meeting in your hometown and there's something unique about it. My DH is from Australia. He moved to the States for me. Whe. his parents came to visit, I gave them a little something representative of my state.

Relac and good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to dump your bf and get back with your ex-h for the sake of your kids

He left me for a man so I believe that ship has sufficiently sunk.

Sorry to hear that. Hope he repents

She dispatched you mercilessly. Lick your wounds and go back under your bridge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. you can gently demur the gift for your kids.

2. If they give one anyway accept graciously and your kids can send a thank yo note.


3. Let your boyfriend worry about paying- he know the dynamic with his parents best.

4. You don't need to bring a gift for his parents. The one exception to this for me is if they are meeting in your hometown and there's something unique about it. My DH is from Australia. He moved to the States for me. Whe. his parents came to visit, I gave them a little something representative of my state.

Relac and good luck!

OP, I wouldn’t do #1. Your boyfriend told you his parents already bought the gifts for your kids so just accept them graciously and tell them it was very thoughtful of them.