chronically suicidal adult daughter

[Anonymous]

Has anyone else been there, done that? My 28 year old daughter has had depression and anxiety issues since elementary school. She also has ADHD. She is extremely introverted and struggles to make/keep friends. Never been in a relationship. She does go to therapy and takes medication but says she thinks about killing herself daily. "I don't see a way out of this," she says. I'm at a loss of how to support her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else been there, done that? My 28 year old daughter has had depression and anxiety issues since elementary school. She also has ADHD. She is extremely introverted and struggles to make/keep friends. Never been in a relationship. She does go to therapy and takes medication but says she thinks about killing herself daily. "I don't see a way out of this," she says. I'm at a loss of how to support her.

Does her therapist do family therapy? I would start there and try to make an appointment. You need resources on how to support her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else been there, done that? My 28 year old daughter has had depression and anxiety issues since elementary school. She also has ADHD. She is extremely introverted and struggles to make/keep friends. Never been in a relationship. She does go to therapy and takes medication but says she thinks about killing herself daily. "I don't see a way out of this," she says. I'm at a loss of how to support her.

Does her therapist do family therapy? I would start there and try to make an appointment. You need resources on how to support her.

I'm not sure. She lives 2 hours away. Maybe a different therapist?

[Anonymous]

Is it possible she has autism? IF so, it might help her have a lens to understand her struggles.

I'm not saying she definitely does, just that it goes undiagnosed in women/girls a lot.

[Anonymous]

I was your adult daughter. Nothing helped when it came to my parents because they were the cause of all my issues. It helped to cut them off

[Anonymous]

Has she done DBT? It can be very useful for chronic suicidality. One of the issues with chronic SI is that the SI becomes a coping mechanism and comfort that is hard to let go of. DBT is good for helping to move past the SI (if chronic).

[Anonymous]

Is she on any medication? Is she open to medication? Zoloft helped me tremendously, but I had to try a few other things first to find what I could tolerate and what would actually help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she on any medication? Is she open to medication? Zoloft helped me tremendously, but I had to try a few other things first to find what I could tolerate and what would actually help.

it says in the OP she does.

[Anonymous]

I would be thinking about ketamine for this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was your adult daughter. Nothing helped when it came to my parents because they were the cause of all my issues. It helped to cut them off

This is unnecessarily cruel. Nothing in the OP suggests this is the issue, including the way the OP describes her daughter's journey to date.

[Anonymous]

I would second a DBT program.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was your adult daughter. Nothing helped when it came to my parents because they were the cause of all my issues. It helped to cut them off

This is unnecessarily cruel. Nothing in the OP suggests this is the issue, including the way the OP describes her daughter's journey to date.

+1. What an a-hole

[Anonymous]

Thinking about suicide daily is sadly common. It's step 1 on the suicide ladder, and not considered to need urgent intervention.

https://www.albertahealthservices.ca/assets/info/amh/if-amh-suicide-risk-level-criteria.pdf

It's below stating an intent, making practical plans, and taking concrete actions toward completion.

Depression is a protective factor insofar as it says motivation to act.

Keeping busy helps. Roommates, jobs, social/cultural/athletic/religious clubs, volunteering. Something to feel responsible for and accountable to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was your adult daughter. Nothing helped when it came to my parents because they were the cause of all my issues. It helped to cut them off

This is unnecessarily cruel. Nothing in the OP suggests this is the issue, including the way the OP describes her daughter's journey to date.

+1. What an a-hole

+2 !!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else been there, done that? My 28 year old daughter has had depression and anxiety issues since elementary school. She also has ADHD. She is extremely introverted and struggles to make/keep friends. Never been in a relationship. She does go to therapy and takes medication but says she thinks about killing herself daily. "I don't see a way out of this," she says. I'm at a loss of how to support her.

Does her therapist do family therapy? I would start there and try to make an appointment. You need resources on how to support her.

I'm not sure. She lives 2 hours away. Maybe a different therapist?

Nowadays, lots of therapist have sessions via zoom. Ask your daughter, let her know you want to understand and support her and maybe family therapy would help, specially since she's "alone".

After years of struggling I'm sure you and your daughter must feel exhausted.