The roommate finding process is a drag

[Anonymous]

DC has been trying to find a roommate before the housing app closes. She can go random, but definitely feels nervous about that. The process of messaging tons of people on social in the hopes that anyone writes back and then doesn’t already have a roommate is draining it and adding a lot of stress. I’m sure seeing cute dorm rooms on social has played into it. The dorm rooms at DC’s college are very small, so it makes sense that they want to room with someone who will want to make a cohesive living space. I kind of hate this process. It’s hard not to take it personally.

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous. They should go back to random for everyone the way it used to be.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes overthinking the roommate process selection can backfire because it comes with heightened expectations. Nothing wrong with random- better to go into something with lower expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes overthinking the roommate process selection can backfire because it comes with heightened expectations. Nothing wrong with random- better to go into something with lower expectations.

+1

I’ve noticed that roommate picking is big for girls, but boys most often go random.

[Anonymous]

It benefits social gregarious ppl.

My DD found a roommate last month but said the NYC private school girls were the worst. Left you unread and never replied.

[Anonymous]

DD found one within a day or so. She posted her major, her interests, and that she was looking for a roommate. Someone responded and now they are rooming together.

[Anonymous]

Roommates should be randomly assigned

[Anonymous]

Has your daughter already attended admitted students day? Mine found hers there - kept in touch with she met during one of the student socials before either had committed to the school and once they both did, they decided to be roommates. They visited once over the summer before school started to get to know each other a little better and it worked really well for them. I know luck played a huge part in that, but wanted to suggest your daughter attend any in-person social opportunities for incoming students if the time has not already passed.

[Anonymous]

Good reason for her to cut down on social media consumption if the reels and photos are making her sad or anxious.

Mine found one via a school-managed portal. They never became friends yet got along well enough. The roommate was in a time-intensive activity and rarely in the room. Sometimes, roommate was gone most of the weekend.

Later, kiddo found a bunch of roommates and lived with people they loved the following year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Roommates should be randomly assigned

Agree so much.

[Anonymous]

Help your kid navigate the texts and messaging now. It’s overwhelming for girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Roommates should be randomly assigned

Agree so much.

+1

Sucks for the kids to arrive on campus having already been ghosted by a handful of classmates. Also, I can imagine allowing kids to self select means a greater tendency towards segregated friend groups.

[Anonymous]

My DS is choosing a random roommate. He was honest- middle of the road everything, except he wants a tidy dorm room. He went to some summer camps where he stayed in dorms so knows how small those spaces are.

[Anonymous]

I absolutely agree. This is an unnecessary stress. My kids’ school will not do matching based on questionnaire. So choice is instagram madness or complete random based on choosing a bed and seeing who picks the other bed. I think the old way was better.

[Anonymous]

I’m glad my kids school does random- can’t pick one.