Talking to a bisexual woman

[Anonymous]

So I have been talking to this amazing woman. We are on the same page on everything and we are both looking for a serious relationship with marriage/kids as the end goal. She is 35 and I am 31. The only thing she is bisexual. That's not an issue necessarily but it's giving me pause. She said she is never been in a relationship with a woman just had sex with them.

Am I a rebound from a failed relationship with another woman? I don't think so. I am just not sure how to feel about it.

To the ladies would you date a bisexual man and not have some kind of qualms about it in the back of your mind?

[Anonymous]

I would not date a bi-sexual man as a heterosexual female.

If you’re ok with her being Bi .. Proceed w caution. Have tons of convos on boundaries & expectations.

[Anonymous]

This is clearly not going to work for you.

[Anonymous]

The problem with being in a monogamous relationship with a bisexual person is you can't completely please them. Their interests are different and there's nothing you can do about it. Would avoid for a serious relationship.

[Anonymous]

As a bisexual who was in a monogamous relationship with a cis het man for a decade and a half, I don't see that the bisexuality is the issue here. Are you looking for someone monogamous? Is she? If you both answer yes, then proceed. If there's not an agreement there, you'll need to set terms, and then decide if you trust her to honor them.

Just like any other relationship demographic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem with being in a monogamous relationship with a bisexual person is you can't completely please them. Their interests are different and there's nothing you can do about it. Would avoid for a serious relationship.

You're biased and probably also ignorant. Anti-bi tropes like this need to die

[Anonymous]

I know a number of bisexual women in heterosexual marriages that are monogamous and it's a non-issue. When you think about it, there's not much difference between giving up relationships with one gender or two. If you got married, you'd be agreeing to stop having relationships with any other women, right? Well she'd be agreeing to stop having relationships with both men and women. It's not that different.

That said, I will say I know one bi woman in a hetero marriage where it *is* an issue, and they are open and the husband would probably not choose an open marriage but for the bisexuality issue. But in this one instance, I also suspect the woman has a personality disorder, and that is a much bigger source of their marital issues than her bisexuality. Like I think if she were just hetero but otherwise the same person, she'd still be pushing for an open marriage, it's just that she'd have to admit to herself that the reason why is that she is easily bored and requires a lot of attention, not that she simply cannot go through life without sleeping with both men and women.

So I guess my advice is -- don't write her off because of the bisexuality, but also don't let the bisexuality obscure other issues, whether they are commitment problems on her part or just a general mismatch in values.

[Anonymous]

As a heterosexual man, I don't think I can completely please a heterosexual woman sexually. I don't think a heterosexual woman can completely please me sexually. That doesn't mean I think the women and I are incapable of commitment. You make sacrifices in an exclusive relationship.

[Anonymous]

I’m a bisexual woman who’s been with a bisexual man. For me being bi simply means the pool of people I’m attracted to is larger. It has nothing to do with being unable to be monogamous. I love and am attracted to both genders.

Despite this I did have worries when dating a partner who told me he was bi. I realized I had internalized a lot of stereotypes. In the end his sexuality didn’t matter. He was a faithful loving boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

At a minimum, get a threesome in before you give up on this.

[Anonymous]

I would be fine with it if she is open to threesomes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At a minimum, get a threesome in before you give up on this.

Yes OP would be down for a MMF! What are you 12?

[Anonymous]

I know a few women who date men but occasionally/sometimes sleep with women. They generally do it because bisexual or gay women will do things that men may not do, and do them well. I've considered doing the same because I like dating and sleeping with men but a lot of them get focused on PIV s*x and skip over kissing and foreplay. That stuff is fun.

[Anonymous]

Why are straight men more open to dating bisexual women than straight women are to dating bisexual men? What's the difference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are straight men more open to dating bisexual women than straight women are to dating bisexual men? What's the difference?

Men are very promiscuous and get STDs