What do you think of destination weddings?

[Anonymous]

We recently attended a wedding and it cost us over 10k to attend. We have another destination wedding and it is very inconvenient, expensive and hard to get to.

If I was single and childless, I would enjoy a week at a great location. With 3 kids, requiring 5 international plane tickets and $$$ location and limited time and bad scheduling, I hate them! We end up not able to even enjoy destination being preoccupied with wedding festivities and then we fly back.

How do you feel about destination weddings?

I wish these couples would just have a local or at least domestic wedding and then have a photo shoot by themselves at their dream destination.

[Anonymous]

Tacky.

[Anonymous]

Like you, how I feel about them has depended on what stage I am in life. I don’t feel obligated to go ever so I only go if I really want to.

[Anonymous]

I think they are great if that is what the folks getting married want to do. But I'm not attending; if I'm going to spend money and time on a vacation destination, I'm going to choose it and I'm going to be doing what I want to do.

[Anonymous]

I don't go. Way too expensive.

[Anonymous]

Loved them as a single 20-something. Hated them in my 30s with kids. Love them again in my 40s now that the kids are old enough to be left alone.

[Anonymous]

Great way to reduce the guest list.

[Anonymous]

As a 20-something I probably would have foolishly assumed that people would be into them. Now, I would be so embarrassed to think that people would want to spend precious time off and tons of money just to celebrate me. Sure, they can decline, but it’s presumptuous to even invite. Unless all of your closest friends and family are fabulously wealthy, don’t do it.

[Anonymous]

I love them and it's worth it to me to find childcare and make a trip of it with my spouse. Otherwise I feel too guilty doing something without kids, this is an excuse for grown-up time.

[Anonymous]

The father of the bride pays for the airfare and hotel so I live them.

[Anonymous]

Attending one was the only time I needed a passport. And honestly, I spent more getting to MA than I did to Mexico for a wedding. So I didn't mind it.

[Anonymous]

Hate them. Such an inconvenience for the guests. Sure, some people like the vacation of it all. But I'd rather plan my own, not pay a fortune for someone else's plans.

[Anonymous]

I love traveling, but hate destination weddings. I rarely spend $$$ on hotels, so I hate being forced to stay there. The destinations are also always beach type destinations that I don't want to travel to (Jamaica, Mexico, Bahamas).

[Anonymous]

Would just not go to them unless it’s a destination I actually want to go to and I can make the wedding a couple days out of a bigger trip.

[Anonymous]

Destination weddings only for small, family only weddings. Not for large weddings with friends. So selfish and unfair to your guests