Question for those who married their first intimate partner

[Anonymous]

Question for women who married their first intimate partner, do you regret anything? Were you instantly compatible, did you work at it for a long time, did it ever get better? For those of you who didn't make it until death do us part, and eventually started seeing other intimate people (or cheated before breaking the marriage), did you find better partners?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say I regret it, but I’m curious, but I’m curious about a lot of things, so I don’t know that this holds much weight. We’ve always been exceptionally compatible, very attuned, and very adventurous. It’s a lot of fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say I regret it, but I’m curious, but I’m curious about a lot of things, so I don’t know that this holds much weight. We’ve always been exceptionally compatible, very attuned, and very adventurous. It’s a lot of fun.

How do you know if what you have now is good, if you have no comparison?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say I regret it, but I’m curious, but I’m curious about a lot of things, so I don’t know that this holds much weight. We’ve always been exceptionally compatible, very attuned, and very adventurous. It’s a lot of fun.

How do you know if what you have now is good, if you have no comparison?

Because I have intense orgasms? I mean, how do you know you couldn’t have better, in spite of experience? Maybe all of the men you’ve ever slept with have been crummy and you just don’t know it. I’ll never understand this question. Like, how do you know you’re in genital ecstasy? So dumb.

[Anonymous]

Married 44 years, met when we were 18. Maybe ignorance is bliss but I'm very happy.

[Anonymous]

Married 40 years, first person I was that intimate with. Been together 44 years. Met in our mid 20's.

Yes we were instantly compatible. However we have also grown together likes and dislikes etc. Extremely respectful of the other person. We both like sex, we talk about sex, we are very open in this area.

This is my experience OP yours might not be this. Just because someone is compatible in this area does not make a marriage at all. Marriage is about way more than sex. And no marriage is perfect none.

No it will not get better. That would be extremely rare.

Cheating is rarely only about sex.

Do not marry someone who is not your partner in this it never works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say I regret it, but I’m curious, but I’m curious about a lot of things, so I don’t know that this holds much weight. We’ve always been exceptionally compatible, very attuned, and very adventurous. It’s a lot of fun.

How do you know if what you have now is good, if you have no comparison?

Because I have intense orgasms? I mean, how do you know you couldn’t have better, in spite of experience? Maybe all of the men you’ve ever slept with have been crummy and you just don’t know it. I’ll never understand this question. Like, how do you know you’re in genital ecstasy? So dumb.

Ahh, and what if you have no orgasms..

[Anonymous]

It gets better and better. I keep being amazed how much. 16 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say I regret it, but I’m curious, but I’m curious about a lot of things, so I don’t know that this holds much weight. We’ve always been exceptionally compatible, very attuned, and very adventurous. It’s a lot of fun.

How do you know if what you have now is good, if you have no comparison?

Because I have intense orgasms? I mean, how do you know you couldn’t have better, in spite of experience? Maybe all of the men you’ve ever slept with have been crummy and you just don’t know it. I’ll never understand this question. Like, how do you know you’re in genital ecstasy? So dumb.

Ahh, and what if you have no orgasms..

I can’t help you there, sorry!

[Anonymous]

My spouse is the only person I've been naked with. Someone else I dated was a much better kisser, and I sometimes wish my spouse was better at that. There are times I've wondered what life would be like with a different partner, but not for sexual reasons. As a PP noted, a successful marriage partnership has many components.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say I regret it, but I’m curious, but I’m curious about a lot of things, so I don’t know that this holds much weight. We’ve always been exceptionally compatible, very attuned, and very adventurous. It’s a lot of fun.

How do you know if what you have now is good, if you have no comparison?

Does it matter, if you’re content?

I don’t understand the need to know you have “the best” sexual partner. If you’re happy, it’s good!

[Anonymous]

I have been curious. Not curious enough to regret it or to blow up a great marriage.

The upside is I don’t have to worry he preferred sex with someone else or that he is remembering other people. It’s something we only share with each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say I regret it, but I’m curious, but I’m curious about a lot of things, so I don’t know that this holds much weight. We’ve always been exceptionally compatible, very attuned, and very adventurous. It’s a lot of fun.

How do you know if what you have now is good, if you have no comparison?

I’m a different poster but I just wanted to add that most people probably don’t marry the best sex of their life.

Most people have a general requirement of “good sex” and lots if other parameters that go into finding a good life partner.

For me, the best sex of my life was when I studied abroad in Rio and met a man in town for a Judo tournament. He had perfect abs and we made out on the beach in our white outfits for hours. Then we had insane sex in his hotel room and went back out to see fireworks and bringing in the new year.

Do I wish I had married that guy? Hell no. It was a really fun few weeks in my early 20’s though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say I regret it, but I’m curious, but I’m curious about a lot of things, so I don’t know that this holds much weight. We’ve always been exceptionally compatible, very attuned, and very adventurous. It’s a lot of fun.

How do you know if what you have now is good, if you have no comparison?

Does it matter, if you’re content?

I don’t understand the need to know you have “the best” sexual partner. If you’re happy, it’s good!

It doesn't matter . It;s just away for people to attempt to shame people for only having one sexual partner.

[Anonymous]

Imho sex is no more a rocket science and you don't need dozen partners to practice it, as long as a couple is happy and compatible otherwise, they can figure sex out and keep on improving it, even using medical and non-medical resources to help if needed.