Coming over unannounced

[Anonymous]

What are your thoughts on coming over unannounced when dating for a short amount of time? A male friend tried to convince me that the reason I’m having a hard time getting into a committed relationship is because I’m not aggressive enough, and I need to do bold acts like this. I find the idea of showing up unannounced a turn off and violation of boundaries. He says no man will turn down a beautiful woman on his doorstep who shows up with food and a desire for sex. Please chime in.

[Anonymous]

Don’t do it - he’ll think you are a crazy stalker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it - he’ll think you are a crazy stalker

I think it depends, how beautiful (relative to the guy), and how good is the food ? If you are an 8-9 and the guy is a 5-6, then go for it. Otherwise, on thin ice, unless that’s some damn good food.

[Anonymous]

No - it just makes you look bad

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to show up unannounced? I can’t think of a reason I would want to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it - he’ll think you are a crazy stalker

I think it depends, how beautiful (relative to the guy), and how good is the food ? If you are an 8-9 and the guy is a 5-6, then go for it. Otherwise, on thin ice, unless that’s some damn good food.

This doesn’t make any sense. Why wouldn’t you just text and offer sex and food?

[Anonymous]

Nonsense!

[Anonymous]

I'm so confused. He wants you to show up unannounced with your sexy self on his doorstep with a home cooked meal? Girl you can do so much better. How about he shows up with roses and with a reservation to the Ritz Carlton. Don't fall for this BS. How is this even a question. Block this loser. I would rather be alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused. He wants you to show up unannounced with your sexy self on his doorstep with a home cooked meal? Girl you can do so much better. How about he shows up with roses and with a reservation to the Ritz Carlton. Don't fall for this BS. How is this even a question. Block this loser. I would rather be alone.

+1

[Anonymous]

Your friend is an idiot

It’s his stupid porn hub fantasy or something, but I guarantee that if someone he was dating just showed up on unannounced, he would think she was a psycho stalker.

[Anonymous]

It will make you look desperate and needy.

[Anonymous]

Don’t shown up anywhere unannounced.
Doing so gives thirsty.

[Anonymous]

I would never. I have a key to my BFs house but have never used it.

[Anonymous]

I've had bad experience with this. One woman showed up unannounced right after I'd finished a solo session so I wasn't in the mood to do anything sexual with her. That destroyed our potential relationship because she decided I wasn't attracted to her or wasn't man enough or something. We hadn't even kissed yet and I never told her the true explanation. Another time I showed up unannounced at a different woman's place and another guy was there. We weren't exclusive. The better move is just to text the other person with some respectful advanced warning and ask if you can come over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your friend is an idiot

It’s his stupid porn hub fantasy or something, but I guarantee that if someone he was dating just showed up on unannounced, he would think she was a psycho stalker.

OP here. the topic came up because he dates lots of women and many of them behave like this and he likes it. I told him this seems unhealthy to me and like boundary violation. He said they are aggressive and end up becoming his girlfriend because they insist on it.

I would NEVER do something like this. I was complaining that healthy people like me just end up single, and he said this is the reason why.