Need advice with 9 year old son bedwetting?

[Anonymous]

My son is 9 and he still wets the bed most nights . He's been to doctors everything checks out . His father and I divorced years ago I recently remarried and my husband thinks he shouldn't be wearing goodnites or wetting at night . I keep telling him it's common he says it isn't am I hurting my son by using them .

[Anonymous]

Have you tried a Bedwetting alarm? That’s what worked for our son. He was in such a deep sleep that he couldn’t “hear” his body’s signal to get up a pee. The issue is that it will take several weeks of focused effort. He won’t hear the alarm at first, and you will have to get into the room immediately to put his feet on the floor and walk him to the bathroom. At first he will have already peed by the time you get to the bathroom. That’s okay. With consistent use, he’ll soon stop at the first drop of pee that hits the sensor attached to his underwear. And then finally he’ll wake up on his own to pee.

Invest in bed pads. They’re quilted on one side and plastic on the other. They go on top of the fitted sheet. Just pull the wet one off, put a dry one on, put on fresh underwear, reattach the alarm and go back to bed. The pads are washable.

We got the bed alarm and pads at www.bedwettingstore.com. The alarm clips to the underwear and runs up to the pajama top where you pin it to his shoulder. The alarm is obnoxious.

Again, it takes a while. Once he goes 14 nights dry, you’re almost done.

[Anonymous]

No. You are doing nothing wrong. It’s developmental. You can’t “train” him. Do whatever method works for you to keep him
dry and comfortable. Please don’t let new stepdad shame him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is 9 and he still wets the bed most nights . He's been to doctors everything checks out . His father and I divorced years ago I recently remarried and my husband thinks he shouldn't be wearing goodnites or wetting at night . I keep telling him it's common he says it isn't am I hurting my son by using them .

Even if it’s common, it isn’t normal.
Why might this be happening, if you had to guess?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son is 9 and he still wets the bed most nights . He's been to doctors everything checks out . His father and I divorced years ago I recently remarried and my husband thinks he shouldn't be wearing goodnites or wetting at night . I keep telling him it's common he says it isn't am I hurting my son by using them .

Even if it’s common, it isn’t normal.
Why might this be happening, if you had to guess?

You have it backward, it’s normal but not that common

[Anonymous]

Yikes imagine your stepdad shaming you for something you can't control. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

This is another one of many reasons parents shouldn’t remarry with kids still living at home. Your new husband is terrible. You should have no better than to marry and move him in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried a Bedwetting alarm? That’s what worked for our son. He was in such a deep sleep that he couldn’t “hear” his body’s signal to get up a pee. The issue is that it will take several weeks of focused effort. He won’t hear the alarm at first, and you will have to get into the room immediately to put his feet on the floor and walk him to the bathroom. At first he will have already peed by the time you get to the bathroom. That’s okay. With consistent use, he’ll soon stop at the first drop of pee that hits the sensor attached to his underwear. And then finally he’ll wake up on his own to pee.

Invest in bed pads. They’re quilted on one side and plastic on the other. They go on top of the fitted sheet. Just pull the wet one off, put a dry one on, put on fresh underwear, reattach the alarm and go back to bed. The pads are washable.

We got the bed alarm and pads at www.bedwettingstore.com. The alarm clips to the underwear and runs up to the pajama top where you pin it to his shoulder. The alarm is obnoxious.

Again, it takes a while. Once he goes 14 nights dry, you’re almost done.

Do this. It’s physiological. Your kid is not doing this on purpose anymore than someone snoring is doing it on purpose.

Tell your spouse to stand down unless he is coming to the table with some actual evidence-based solutions.

[Anonymous]

Op here husband doesn't say anything to him he just thinks wearing goodnites enables him . I told him he's asleep not gona matter we have tried alarms in the past with very little luck. His grandpa and uncle wet on my side so thiers a genetic factor against us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here husband doesn't say anything to him he just thinks wearing goodnites enables him . I told him he's asleep not gona matter we have tried alarms in the past with very little luck. His grandpa and uncle wet on my side so thiers a genetic factor against us.

Bed wetting can be a symptom of abuse. Have you considered that?

[Anonymous]

Your new husband is a total jerk. I would dump him, not the Goodnites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your new husband is a total jerk. I would dump him, not the Goodnites.

Just stop. You’re unhinged.

[Anonymous]

My DD wet the bed until age 12. The bedwetting alarm/underwear is what finally got it under control. I highly recommend that.

I have read that childhood bedwetting can be hereditary and I also had a serious issue as a child. I hope that your new husband does not communicate his disgust and disdain to your son. My father used to make me wear the wet underwear on my head and put the wet sheets out in the front yard to embarrass me in front of the neighborhood. I never forgave him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD wet the bed until age 12. The bedwetting alarm/underwear is what finally got it under control. I highly recommend that.

I have read that childhood bedwetting can be hereditary and I also had a serious issue as a child. I hope that your new husband does not communicate his disgust and disdain to your son. My father used to make me wear the wet underwear on my head and put the wet sheets out in the front yard to embarrass me in front of the neighborhood. I never forgave him.

Tragic. I can’t even imagine this for real. Your mother stayed silent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son is 9 and he still wets the bed most nights . He's been to doctors everything checks out . His father and I divorced years ago I recently remarried and my husband thinks he shouldn't be wearing goodnites or wetting at night . I keep telling him it's common he says it isn't am I hurting my son by using them .

Even if it’s common, it isn’t normal.
Why might this be happening, if you had to guess?

It’s not all that uncommon for his age. It is just that there is so much judgement and misunderstanding that people don’t volunteer this about their kids.

You have it backward, it’s normal but not that common