DH is not wanting sex during the third trimester
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Anonymous
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I am HEAVILY pregnant (9 months) and have a really huge bump- I am showing heavily and feel really big.
My DH was all over me in the early/middle stages of pregnancy, and he's someone who is high libido and wants sex multiple times a day if I would agree. But suddenly it's like he's not initiating (maybe once a week) and when we did have sex he couldnt even stay hard the whole time, which has literally never happened before. I already feel like an ugly hippo at this time and it honestly upsets me to think that he must be so turned off by how I look. It's already been hard for me to accept my changing body and the weight gain and this has made me feel so ugly. I dont know if it's just pregnancy hormones making me feel emotional, but it really upsets me. I know this is temporary and the baby will be out soon, but even still, it's my first pregnancy, and I have no idea how long it will take to lose the pregnancy weight and am aware things will likely look different, so it's really hard to fathom him just being not attracted to me anymore. Additionally I have been super horny lately, which I told my DH as a kind of "green pass" since I'm often the one with the lower libido, that doesnt want to have sex as often as him. So I'm physically frustrated as well, hormonal and emotional in addition to all the physical changes of being at this point in pregnancy. Has anyone else gone through this? |
Anonymous
| It’s normal for all men to pull back in third trimester especially closer to delivery. It’s biological. We don’t want to harm our offspring. You can say - getting close won’t hurt the baby! But it doesn’t help. It’s just a mental block. It has nothing to do with his physical attraction for you. Once the baby is out it will be back to normal |
Anonymous
Sex can induce labor late in pregnancy, so yes, this could be a subconcious thing that happens to men to prevent early labor from happening when youre that far along. |
Anonymous
| He must feel like he’s having sex on top of your baby, or with your baby, or something. Can’t you understand that? Just take care of yourself for the last couple of months! |
Anonymous
| We had very little sex during my pregnancies, for similar reasons as have been voiced. We also didn’t have sex for months postpartum. But our sex lives did eventually return to normal, so please don’t worry that this means you guys will never have sex again. |
Anonymous
| Having sex once a week is more than some non-pregnant couples |
Anonymous
| Formal. His D is literally hitting your baby’s head. My DH didn’t want it the whole time I was pregnant. |
Anonymous
Um…duh OP I’m sure this is normal. Hopefully things will get going again after the 6 week post partum appt when you hopefully get cleared. For me it wasn’t until about 10 weeks post partum that I felt up for it and I’m usually a higher libido woman. |
Anonymous
| You don’t have to only do PIV….. |
Anonymous
| He's thinking of the baby over his penis, which is a good thing. |
Anonymous
+1 I wish my husband wanted sex once a week. I'm lucky if he initiates monthly |
Anonymous
| Sounds like he was very much attracted to your pregnant body. In the final couple weeks he may be freaked out over your health and the health of the baby and that's what's holding him back. |
Anonymous
Did your parents opt you out of family life and sexuality lessons in school? |
Anonymous
| How many times did YOU initiate with HIM? |
Anonymous
| Dont let it get to you. it sounds like he still finds you plenty sexy... this is a crazy time for both of you, just let things lie and check in in a couple months when youre out of this insane period. |