DH is not wanting sex during the third trimester

Anonymous
I am HEAVILY pregnant (9 months) and have a really huge bump- I am showing heavily and feel really big.

My DH was all over me in the early/middle stages of pregnancy, and he's someone who is high libido and wants sex multiple times a day if I would agree. But suddenly it's like he's not initiating (maybe once a week) and when we did have sex he couldnt even stay hard the whole time, which has literally never happened before.

I already feel like an ugly hippo at this time and it honestly upsets me to think that he must be so turned off by how I look. It's already been hard for me to accept my changing body and the weight gain and this has made me feel so ugly. I dont know if it's just pregnancy hormones making me feel emotional, but it really upsets me. I know this is temporary and the baby will be out soon, but even still, it's my first pregnancy, and I have no idea how long it will take to lose the pregnancy weight and am aware things will likely look different, so it's really hard to fathom him just being not attracted to me anymore.

Additionally I have been super horny lately, which I told my DH as a kind of "green pass" since I'm often the one with the lower libido, that doesnt want to have sex as often as him. So I'm physically frustrated as well, hormonal and emotional in addition to all the physical changes of being at this point in pregnancy. Has anyone else gone through this?
Anonymous
It’s normal for all men to pull back in third trimester especially closer to delivery. It’s biological. We don’t want to harm our offspring. You can say - getting close won’t hurt the baby! But it doesn’t help. It’s just a mental block. It has nothing to do with his physical attraction for you. Once the baby is out it will be back to normal
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It’s normal for all men to pull back in third trimester especially closer to delivery. It’s biological. We don’t want to harm our offspring. You can say - getting close won’t hurt the baby! But it doesn’t help. It’s just a mental block. It has nothing to do with his physical attraction for you. Once the baby is out it will be back to normal


Sex can induce labor late in pregnancy, so yes, this could be a subconcious thing that happens to men to prevent early labor from happening when youre that far along.
Anonymous
He must feel like he’s having sex on top of your baby, or with your baby, or something. Can’t you understand that? Just take care of yourself for the last couple of months!
Anonymous
We had very little sex during my pregnancies, for similar reasons as have been voiced. We also didn’t have sex for months postpartum. But our sex lives did eventually return to normal, so please don’t worry that this means you guys will never have sex again.
Anonymous
Having sex once a week is more than some non-pregnant couples
Anonymous
Formal. His D is literally hitting your baby’s head. My DH didn’t want it the whole time I was pregnant.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Having sex once a week is more than some non-pregnant couples


Um…duh

OP I’m sure this is normal. Hopefully things will get going again after the 6 week post partum appt when you hopefully get cleared. For me it wasn’t until about 10 weeks post partum that I felt up for it and I’m usually a higher libido woman.
Anonymous
You don’t have to only do PIV…..
Anonymous
He's thinking of the baby over his penis, which is a good thing.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Having sex once a week is more than some non-pregnant couples


+1 I wish my husband wanted sex once a week. I'm lucky if he initiates monthly
Anonymous
Sounds like he was very much attracted to your pregnant body. In the final couple weeks he may be freaked out over your health and the health of the baby and that's what's holding him back.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote: Formal. His D is literally hitting your baby’s head. My DH didn’t want it the whole time I was pregnant.


Did your parents opt you out of family life and sexuality lessons in school?
Anonymous
How many times did YOU initiate with HIM?
Anonymous
Dont let it get to you. it sounds like he still finds you plenty sexy... this is a crazy time for both of you, just let things lie and check in in a couple months when youre out of this insane period.
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