Dating a married person

[Anonymous]

At first i was not feeling very comfortable with a secret relationship, but after a few encounters in a hotel room I absolutely love it. The other person is so experienced in bed.

I don’t expect anything serious about this. But I do feel connected to this person . The individual is so attractive and charming. I just feel bad that we have to meet in secret, as we were committing a crime.

Should I continue enjoying live or should I pay attention to my ethical concerns?

[Anonymous]

If you are in Virginia you are actually committing a crime. Just FYI.

[Anonymous]

If this all you have to temporarily hide the pain of your miserable life, OK

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this all you have to temporarily hide the pain of your miserable life, OK

👍🏻

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are in Virginia you are actually committing a crime. Just FYI.

I am DC so I am safe 😅.

[Anonymous]

I'd say do what you enjoy. He's the one lying to his wife and family. It's his responsibility to keep his commitment to her. Personally, I have morals so I'd never be able to do this. But if you don't mind and you fall into the very large chunk of the population that lacks integrity, it's fine. Just make sure to cut everyone off on the road to the hotel, kick all the puppies on the way in, and slam the door on grandma's face in the lobby.

[Anonymous]

Yes, by all means shatter someone else’s life so you can get some. Makes perfect sense to me! You’re fine - you didn’t make a promise to her, right?! Way to go- you’re #winning

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd say do what you enjoy. He's the one lying to his wife and family. It's his responsibility to keep his commitment to her. Personally, I have morals so I'd never be able to do this. But if you don't mind and you fall into the very large chunk of the population that lacks integrity, it's fine. Just make sure to cut everyone off on the road to the hotel, kick all the puppies on the way in, and slam the door on grandma's face in the lobby.

Someone would benefit from a bit of casual sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, by all means shatter someone else’s life so you can get some. Makes perfect sense to me! You’re fine - you didn’t make a promise to her, right?! Way to go- you’re #winning

I don’t see the harm if we stop it after two more encounters.

I think you might need some relief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this all you have to temporarily hide the pain of your miserable life, OK

Disagree.

Maybe you are polyamorous. Meaning you don’t need or want one relationship to satisfy you as the expectation in monogamy.

We could classify serial cheaters as well. I, a single divorced woman, briefly dated a younger, married man who was a dad. I wasn’t his first girlfriend on the side.

It wasn’t for me in the end. But having been divorced and coparenting I see how maintaining both a romantic relationship and a functional parenting team and managing the economics of a marriage over decades isn’t always worth the effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At first i was not feeling very comfortable with a secret relationship, but after a few encounters in a hotel room I absolutely love it. The other person is so experienced in bed.

I don’t expect anything serious about this. But I do feel connected to this person . The individual is so attractive and charming. I just feel bad that we have to meet in secret, as we were committing a crime.

Should I continue enjoying live or should I pay attention to my ethical concerns?

LOL. No go ahead and keep doing what you are doing. Life pays you back at some point. Always remember that.

[Anonymous]

If he leaves his wife for you just be aware that you wouldn't be getting the prize you think you are. It'll be great for a while, maybe a year or two but some day you're going to realize, maybe subconsciously, that you are damaged goods and the best you can do is really damaged goods. But enjoy it while you can. Cheers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd say do what you enjoy. He's the one lying to his wife and family. It's his responsibility to keep his commitment to her. Personally, I have morals so I'd never be able to do this. But if you don't mind and you fall into the very large chunk of the population that lacks integrity, it's fine. Just make sure to cut everyone off on the road to the hotel, kick all the puppies on the way in, and slam the door on grandma's face in the lobby.

Not OP, but in my experience regular access to fulfilling sex makes me a better person. I enjoy letting people into lanes and holding doors open for people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At first i was not feeling very comfortable with a secret relationship, but after a few encounters in a hotel room I absolutely love it. The other person is so experienced in bed.

I don’t expect anything serious about this. But I do feel connected to this person . The individual is so attractive and charming. I just feel bad that we have to meet in secret, as we were committing a crime.

Should I continue enjoying live or should I pay attention to my ethical concerns?

If you’re enjoying this situation, clearly your ethics are questionable at best anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd say do what you enjoy. He's the one lying to his wife and family. It's his responsibility to keep his commitment to her. Personally, I have morals so I'd never be able to do this. But if you don't mind and you fall into the very large chunk of the population that lacks integrity, it's fine. Just make sure to cut everyone off on the road to the hotel, kick all the puppies on the way in, and slam the door on grandma's face in the lobby.

Not OP, but in my experience regular access to fulfilling sex makes me a better person. I enjoy letting people into lanes and holding doors open for people.

So...OP should wreck a family so that some people get doors held open for them?