Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
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Anonymous
| How did you divide the time during the process? I am reading it takes about a year or more - DH refuses to move out and I am not sure how this should be handled. Do I just move with the kids? He’s abusive so living with him for a year is not possible. |
Anonymous
| Speak with your lawyer first, OP, answer is jurisdiction and fact dependent. |
Anonymous
I just want to hear what other people do and how it’s working out. I know someone who nested, but that wouldn’t work for us as H has a strange out of town work schedule. Plus I really don’t want to donut and 1 DC (almost 18) doesn’t want to see him. |
Anonymous
That was written by a divorxe attorney layer No. Avoid starting that bill as long as you can Once you start the clock $$$ All they hear is the money deposit |
Anonymous
| I had to love with my ex. He was not abusive but it was not fun. I’m not a lawyer but I disagree with the earlier poster. You really need to check with a lawyer. Sometimes if you move out, it could give you less of a position to keep your house or your interest in the house. |
Anonymous
| You move out and make a 50-50 schedule for custody. |
Anonymous
No. not true. If a man moves out they are not like “oh you get less equity now” it’s not healthy to live w ex if it is not her desire He can also tape her or bait her or whatever |
Anonymous
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My ex moved out into an apartment. I am a
F, was 42 at the time. Divorce took 2.5 years. We settled and I purchased the house from him- he filed a quit claim. The kids and I lived there through Covid then sold and downsized. |
Anonymous
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Op has to give second parent
access to the kids though half of the time she could propose the parenting schedule Then follow up in writing. Use chat gpt Call it a parenting schedule which is less frightening to the idea-newbie keep bickering at a minimum - Again use chat gpt . It can help keep things above board and you out of trouble Once your head is on straight start an excel sheet thst lists your large assets and their values . handle / do the house (s) calculation LAST eg Mortage balance minus equity paid Not hard but do it last don’t get wrapped around the axel anyone can so this |
Anonymous
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Finally ignore all small personal property. This is the best stat.
Even your junk minivan that you drove the kids around in. )|+{}^ Sorry au am projecting hahahah Just ignore the small sh*t or leave it for the very end . Vehicles are easy to value later anyone can survive divorce AND get half of YOUR stuff |
Anonymous
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moving out will give you the head space to plan on your own and move out and forward.
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Anonymous
Then you have to move out. Simple as. |
Anonymous
Attorney tells me not to. |
Anonymous
Well of course, because that makes the attorney more money. Divorce lawyers prey upon women. |
Anonymous
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