How often do your adult kids contact you?

[Anonymous]

Reading that Gene Hackman may have been dead for weeks got me thinking - How often do your adult kids contact you? Does age or distance matter?

I'm 52 and I call my long-distance parents once or twice a week and text 3-4 times. DH calls his local parents once or twice a week but I know SIL talks to them daily. I feel like we'd easily figure out if something happened way before a few weeks. Our kids are younger, but they connect regularly. Our long-distance 25 YO will call/text roughly every other day. 18 and 21 YOs call less often, but are in college. They do text.

[Anonymous]

We text with our adult kids several times a week on family chat. DD is more active than DS but he participates too.

I try to get in touch with my mother at least once a week by phone or email. Less often with my father but he is married to a much younger person so she would let us know if something was up (although I guess that didn't help Gene Hackman).

[Anonymous]

how often do you contact your adult children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We text with our adult kids several times a week on family chat. DD is more active than DS but he participates too.

I try to get in touch with my mother at least once a week by phone or email. Less often with my father but he is married to a much younger person so she would let us know if something was up (although I guess that didn't help Gene Hackman).

Tell your stepmother to call you before she offs herself.

[Anonymous]

Mostly every day now that they are elderly.

[Anonymous]

Back when my dad was alive I would typically talk to him twice a week, usually on Sundays and Wednesdays, though they’d often vary a bit.

Dh’s parents are challenging and he speaks to them much less frequently. I’d be very sad if my kids don’t speak to me at least weekly when they grow up.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the kids. They are very different from each other.

[Anonymous]

I'm an adult kid and am fine talking to my dad once a month. He is VERY dull and tells me the most mundane things about his life (which store he went food shopping at, which load of laundry he's done) and when I talk about mine he interrupts to give unsolicited advice I don't need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an adult kid and am fine talking to my dad once a month. He is VERY dull and tells me the most mundane things about his life (which store he went food shopping at, which load of laundry he's done) and when I talk about mine he interrupts to give unsolicited advice I don't need.

Are you from New Jersey?

[Anonymous]

DS lives overseas. We try to video call every week but sometimes it slips to every other because we can't work out the time zones b/w his work schedule and our routine. He'll reply right away to texts though as do we when needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an adult kid and am fine talking to my dad once a month. He is VERY dull and tells me the most mundane things about his life (which store he went food shopping at, which load of laundry he's done) and when I talk about mine he interrupts to give unsolicited advice I don't need.

Are you from New Jersey?

Close. NY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:how often do you contact your adult children?

Thank you.If your adult chldren don't call/text you, well you are absoluetly the problem. Call a therapist.

[Anonymous]

We have a family whats app group so if someone went silent for too long, we would notice. We use it as there is only so much to talk about with our elderly parents and they like seeing pictures and getting updates so we collectively work to post to the group chat almost every day. Grandkids are on it as well.

I talk to my parents on the phone every 7-10 days. My sister also talks to them about the same frequency and my brother lives near them and sees them about the same - once eery 7-10 days. The adult kids we mostly keep in touch with by text but probably talk every week or so. Often when talking to one child we will video in the other and end up with a family video call. Kids call when they have something interesting to share or had a rough day or need something. They are in their 20s and enjoying independent life.

[Anonymous]

I also saw that Hackman's daughter said that she hadn't talked to him in a few months and all I could think was, "you have a 95-year-old dad and you are not talking to him at least weekly?!" but I guess she outsourced the care to the younger wife. My FIL is 96 and I am constantly asking my DH, "did you call your dad this week?"

[Anonymous]

His wife's family said they hadn't heard from her since October. That before that they talked to her about once a month but she hadn't been in touch since October. Seems they were pretty reclusive.