Dating, sex, marriage in Christian faith

[Anonymous]

What's the Christian way to do this and how it changed over the time to what we currently have in this society? What are the pros and cons?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the Christian way to do this and how it changed over the time to what we currently have in this society? What are the pros and cons?

I don’t think there is any one Christian way. I have Christian friends who range from very conservative and don’t even encourage college aged children from sharing accommodation with opposite gender students and others who are very permissive.

We encourage our children to be responsible and not casually mess with people’s feelings. Both DC are in committed relationships and older one is married. We put no pressure on younger one to get married and would prefer they wait until they are finished college and more settled.

The important thing to us is to be in loving respectful relationships. They both dated before their current partners.

I also would not have cared if they were gay but they are not. Love is love.

[Anonymous]

Anyone else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the Christian way to do this and how it changed over the time to what we currently have in this society? What are the pros and cons?

I don’t think there is any one Christian way. I have Christian friends who range from very conservative and don’t even encourage college aged children from sharing accommodation with opposite gender students and others who are very permissive.

We encourage our children to be responsible and not casually mess with people’s feelings. Both DC are in committed relationships and older one is married. We put no pressure on younger one to get married and would prefer they wait until they are finished college and more settled.

The important thing to us is to be in loving respectful relationships. They both dated before their current partners.

I also would not have cared if they were gay but they are not. Love is love.

Agree -- there is no one acceptable Christian way of dating having sex and getting married. And it would be helpful to know what OP means by "what we currently have in this society" and "What are the pros and cons."

[Anonymous]

I don’t think there is any one way to date as a Christian. Here is a general guide.

I doubt that there is consensus on issues such as sex before marriage or GLBTQ+ but probably there is general consensus on being guided by love, behaving in ethical ways in relationship (not cheating or lying) and setting healthy boundaries .



NAVIGATING MODERN DATING AS A CHRISTIAN
OCTOBER 29, 2024

https://women.lifeway.com/2024/10/29/navigating-modern-dating-as-a-christian/

Modern Christian dating practices include being guided by love, setting boundaries, and prioritizing godly character.

Being guided by love
Love over lust: Prioritize love over lust, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you

Put obedience over passion: Do what's right, even if it doesn't feel good

Examine your motives: Consider whether your motivations are genuine affection or something else
Setting boundaries
Set limits mutually: Both partners should be responsible for setting limits

Respect each other: If one person is uncomfortable with physical expression, don't do it

Determine what's "must-have" vs "nice to have": Prioritize godly character firs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think there is any one way to date as a Christian. Here is a general guide.

I doubt that there is consensus on issues such as sex before marriage or GLBTQ+ but probably there is general consensus on being guided by love, behaving in ethical ways in relationship (not cheating or lying) and setting healthy boundaries .



NAVIGATING MODERN DATING AS A CHRISTIAN
OCTOBER 29, 2024

https://women.lifeway.com/2024/10/29/navigating-modern-dating-as-a-christian/

Modern Christian dating practices include being guided by love, setting boundaries, and prioritizing godly character.

Being guided by love
Love over lust: Prioritize love over lust, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you

Put obedience over passion: Do what's right, even if it doesn't feel good

Examine your motives: Consider whether your motivations are genuine affection or something else
Setting boundaries
Set limits mutually: Both partners should be responsible for setting limits

Respect each other: If one person is uncomfortable with physical expression, don't do it

Determine what's "must-have" vs "nice to have": Prioritize godly character firs

If you leave out the religious references, this is good advice for anyone.

[Anonymous]

The Mormons have adapted and now unmarried couples do "jump humping" to avoid premarital sex:
https://www.businessinsider.com/mormon-teens-tiktok-soaking-jump-humping-avoid-thrusting-during-sex-2021-9

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Mormons have adapted and now unmarried couples do "jump humping" to avoid premarital sex:
https://www.businessinsider.com/mormon-teens-tiktok-soaking-jump-humping-avoid-thrusting-during-sex-2021-9

I wonder how many mormons change their minds in the midst of "soaking' or "jump-humping" and just decide to go all the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think there is any one way to date as a Christian. Here is a general guide.

I doubt that there is consensus on issues such as sex before marriage or GLBTQ+ but probably there is general consensus on being guided by love, behaving in ethical ways in relationship (not cheating or lying) and setting healthy boundaries .



NAVIGATING MODERN DATING AS A CHRISTIAN
OCTOBER 29, 2024

https://women.lifeway.com/2024/10/29/navigating-modern-dating-as-a-christian/

Modern Christian dating practices include being guided by love, setting boundaries, and prioritizing godly character.

Being guided by love
Love over lust: Prioritize love over lust, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you

Put obedience over passion: Do what's right, even if it doesn't feel good

Examine your motives: Consider whether your motivations are genuine affection or something else
Setting boundaries
Set limits mutually: Both partners should be responsible for setting limits

Respect each other: If one person is uncomfortable with physical expression, don't do it

Determine what's "must-have" vs "nice to have": Prioritize godly character firs

If you leave out the religious references, this is good advice for anyone.

+1 "Allow the Holy Spirit to guide you" and "Prioritize godly character first" seem meaningless and superfluous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think there is any one way to date as a Christian. Here is a general guide.

I doubt that there is consensus on issues such as sex before marriage or GLBTQ+ but probably there is general consensus on being guided by love, behaving in ethical ways in relationship (not cheating or lying) and setting healthy boundaries .



NAVIGATING MODERN DATING AS A CHRISTIAN
OCTOBER 29, 2024

https://women.lifeway.com/2024/10/29/navigating-modern-dating-as-a-christian/

Modern Christian dating practices include being guided by love, setting boundaries, and prioritizing godly character.

Being guided by love
Love over lust: Prioritize love over lust, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you

Put obedience over passion: Do what's right, even if it doesn't feel good

Examine your motives: Consider whether your motivations are genuine affection or something else
Setting boundaries
Set limits mutually: Both partners should be responsible for setting limits

Respect each other: If one person is uncomfortable with physical expression, don't do it

Determine what's "must-have" vs "nice to have": Prioritize godly character firs

If you leave out the religious references, this is good advice for anyone.

+1 "Allow the Holy Spirit to guide you" and "Prioritize godly character first" seem meaningless and superfluous.

Only if you're an atheist.