Where do all the shy kids go?

[Anonymous]

Where do the shy, introverted but excellent academic kids go? The ones who lack leadership because standing out is uncomfortable but also have above a 4.0? It seems like only the outgoing are successful.

[Anonymous]

LACs.

[Anonymous]

the valedictorian of my hs class was like this and wound up at princeton. she was quiet but VERY smart. Just a very, very nice girl. Hard to get to know and actually broke down at a mutual friend's party over the pressure her parents placed on her to be perfect-she sat with us at lunch and we had no idea.

[Anonymous]

There are shy kids at every school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the valedictorian of my hs class was like this and wound up at princeton. she was quiet but VERY smart. Just a very, very nice girl. Hard to get to know and actually broke down at a mutual friend's party over the pressure her parents placed on her to be perfect-she sat with us at lunch and we had no idea.

How did she do once she got to college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LACs.

Why LACs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are shy kids at every school.

This.

Though I will add that DS is at art school, which has been great socially for an introvert.

[Anonymous]

Haverford

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LACs.

Why LACs?

SLACs are small enough that quiet introverted people aren’t drowned or left out. Less emphasis on social or Greek scene.

Harvey Mudd
Reed College
Swarthmore
Mount Holyoke
Grinnell

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are shy kids at every school.

This.

Though I will add that DS is at art school, which has been great socially for an introvert.

May I ask which school? Looking at art schools for my very introverted homebody next year.

[Anonymous]

Also, look for research universities with known introverted/academic cultures:

University of Chicago
Rice University
Carnegie Mellon
Rochester Institute of Technology
Case Western Reserve

[Anonymous]

Not all shy people want to be at a tiny school that's a LAC. I know a couple of shy, introverted kids who LOVED huge schools like Berkeley and Wisconsin because they could do their own thing and find their own people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LACs.

Why LACs?

SLACs are small enough that quiet introverted people aren’t drowned or left out. Less emphasis on social or Greek scene.

Harvey Mudd
Reed College
Swarthmore
Mount Holyoke
Grinnell

As a shy person a small LAC would be my idea of hell on earth

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the valedictorian of my hs class was like this and wound up at princeton. she was quiet but VERY smart. Just a very, very nice girl. Hard to get to know and actually broke down at a mutual friend's party over the pressure her parents placed on her to be perfect-she sat with us at lunch and we had no idea.

How did she do once she got to college?

sadly lost track of her. I think the last thing I knew was she had literally become a rocket scientist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LACs.

Why LACs?

SLACs are small enough that quiet introverted people aren’t drowned or left out. Less emphasis on social or Greek scene.

Harvey Mudd
Reed College
Swarthmore
Mount Holyoke
Grinnell

As a shy person a small LAC would be my idea of hell on earth

I was a shy person at a small LAC. I was also less affluent than most other students. The combination was tough but I made friends and made it through. I think I would have liked a larger school in an urban setting more, though. Small LACs can be just too small. Very fishbowl like.