Any INFJ personality type here?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an INTJ bitches

Represent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've enjoyed this! I am also INFJ, and relate to most everything people say.

I've been blaming everything (like my indecisiveness and procrastination) on my upbringing, but maybe it's my personality type. (Though I guess maybe my personality type comes from my upbringing!)

I'm also indecisive, very empathetic, very sensitive to anger in others (I have to stay away from certain people.) But I was raised by a family with a strong streak of personalities which are very angry and critical (and a bit narcissistic). This is the personality of my mom, her dad, and my younger brother. My mother also raised me to be kind of codependent with her, so my personality was squelched by her unpredictable anger.

I always want to make everyone happy, and am very sensitive as to what might do that. I am not good at standing up for myself, or taking care of what I want for myself. I'm not even very good at identifying what I want (separate from what others want.)

Yet, I also have strong opinions and am persistent about things I feel are right. Strong sense of justice.

I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up (at 53.)

I was a assistant director for a non profit, but am thinking of going back to school in social work. In my old job I did a lot of event management etc, but that's not a good match for me (especially since I've been a SAHM for longer than I intended, for various reasons) Anyway, program management and event planning is too much like being a SAHM. Running everything for other people.

I am also drawn to writing/journalism. When I was younger I wanted to be a naturalist, or the Jane Goodall of dolphins. I took a job match test a long time ago, and probably should have listened (the result was librarian, social worker or forest ranger. They all sound good to me.) My worry with social work is that it would be too draining, so I'm reassured to see other INFJ social workers/psychologist/counselors on here who seem happy with the choice.

I'm married to an extreme introvert with Aspergers, which isn't easy. (I think maybe having been raised by people who couldn't express feelings, I inadvertently chose that in a spouse) I'm also very loyal to friends. I have one close circle of elementary school friends and one small circle of college friends, and in both cases feel like I'm the one holding everyone together (instigating our gatherings)

You probably understand how to partner with an Asperger's type. I can, too. It's the reading of emotions, probably.

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Any INFJs here that were adopted?

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, here's a question..groups and cliques

Where are you? I'm not an outcast, or loner, but I am never in "the clique." I have friends, but if a group forms, that's it for me, even if it's not my choice.

I'm not in the clique either. I'm friendly, but sometimes a bit aloof. I don't find it very easy to make friends. I have a close group of friends that I've had for years. I'm crap at and not interested in small talk.

OMG this is me!! Hate small talk and bad at it, never in the clique. But, have many good and close friends but most don’t know each other. I collect individual friends more than I run in a group.

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Another INFJ here. I can relate to so many of these posts. I used to be sceptical about the Meyers- Briggs personality types. As I read each one of your post , I can't deny that you are describing me!
I am a social worker. I love my job! I do have to be mindful of boundaries because I want to save everyone. I get so much satisfaction from helping others in need. It has saved me during this pandemic because it has given me purpose.
I am married to a software engineer and have three adult kids.I was a SAHM when my children were little. My kids and husband are my world. I am uncomfortable in large groups and feel invisible , but can shine in small groups. I do find myself envious of people with active social lifes even though I know it would exhaust me. I despise cliques. I have a small number of loyal friends and many friendships over the years that have come and gone for a variety of reasons.
I also suffer from anxiety, perfectionism, and percrastination. I am paralyzed by decisions and this frustrated my black/white thinking husband.
I am very intuitive , empathetic and can connect with people easily. Toxic people despise me and I have been targeted by bullies in my past.
I am enjoying this thread and it helps to see that there are others on this forum like me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the challenge re: friendships is that most who test as INFJ have some serious sincerity radar. I can whiff even slight insincerity from a mile away and I can't honor or engage with it, and that is challenging. The positive outcome is that I have a smaller group of friends who are amazing and sincere people. Negative outcome could be that I struggle to connect with just anyone, and it's hard to have more shallow friendships with people I wouldn't be able to connect with more deeply. I do think there's value in a greater numer of not-so-deep friendships, but just don't really have that in me.

This is me too! I have always had a group of close female friends but I have zero desire to engage in fake interactions with insincere people. I was a commercial litigator at a large law firm and hated it. Kids are older now and I'm thinking about next steps career wise and hoping to find a career that is a better fit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the challenge re: friendships is that most who test as INFJ have some serious sincerity radar. I can whiff even slight insincerity from a mile away and I can't honor or engage with it, and that is challenging. The positive outcome is that I have a smaller group of friends who are amazing and sincere people. Negative outcome could be that I struggle to connect with just anyone, and it's hard to have more shallow friendships with people I wouldn't be able to connect with more deeply. I do think there's value in a greater numer of not-so-deep friendships, but just don't really have that in me.

This is me too! I have always had a group of close female friends but I have zero desire to engage in fake interactions with insincere people. I was a commercial litigator at a large law firm and hated it. Kids are older now and I'm thinking about next steps career wise and hoping to find a career that is a better fit

Same here. ...about the smaller group of friends and why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another INFJ here. I can relate to so many of these posts. I used to be sceptical about the Meyers- Briggs personality types. As I read each one of your post , I can't deny that you are describing me!
I am a social worker. I love my job! I do have to be mindful of boundaries because I want to save everyone. I get so much satisfaction from helping others in need. It has saved me during this pandemic because it has given me purpose.
I am married to a software engineer and have three adult kids.I was a SAHM when my children were little. My kids and husband are my world. I am uncomfortable in large groups and feel invisible , but can shine in small groups. I do find myself envious of people with active social lifes even though I know it would exhaust me. I despise cliques. I have a small number of loyal friends and many friendships over the years that have come and gone for a variety of reasons.
I also suffer from anxiety, perfectionism, and percrastination. I am paralyzed by decisions and this frustrated my black/white thinking husband.
I am very intuitive , empathetic and can connect with people easily. Toxic people despise me and I have been targeted by bullies in my past.
I am enjoying this thread and it helps to see that there are others on this forum like me.

True about toxic people- people who manipulate and lie, also don't like me, even though I don't say anything. I think they know that I "know" they cannot manipulate me. Or whatever (?)

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a school psychologist

Are you enjoying it?

I would like to move away from marketing to counseling, which would require me to return to school. But I have wondered if it might be too much of an emotional toil that have a strong chance of leading to burn out.

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I’ve found my people! How do I become an intelligence analyst at 52?

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Aren’t most lawyers INFJ? DC is full of this personality type.

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I feel like 99% of DCUM is INFJ. Just look at the types of posts on here.

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I could have written a lot of these posts! I wonder if I did write one years ago. I swing between INFJ and INTJ.

Former teacher, now almost 40 yo SAHM married to a lawyer. Thinking of finding work now that kid is in school full time. Any ideas?

[Anonymous]

One of the reasons I had to move from the DMV is because there were so many people with the same personality type in the area. Everyone was a risk-averse introvert that needed to study data before deciding which whisk to buy— and then everyone owned the same whisk.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the reasons I had to move from the DMV is because there were so many people with the same personality type in the area. Everyone was a risk-averse introvert that needed to study data before deciding which whisk to buy— and then everyone owned the same whisk.

Lol. I moved to a different state and I can confirm I’m the most (secretly) anxious and neurotic. I was also freaked out and suspicious when people I’d just met were asking for my cell phone number and giving me theirs. I told another mom I never really buy Oreos for my kid anymore (That’s a lie, I’ve never bought them.) and she was shocked and confused.