Dominate Conversation question

[Anonymous]

When a women talks a ton and completely dominates a conversation with you, what does that mean?

Does that mean she is seeking power over you?

If the person, does not even give you a chance to breathe or say a word because they talk so fast and control the conversation so much. It does not leave you emotionally feeling good at all.

Why do some women communicate in this manner?

[Anonymous]

It means I will like them in very, very small doses. Definitely not marriage material. I like quiet in my house.

[Anonymous]

Men talk more than women. Record a conversation. Go back and listen how much time you talked compared to her talking.

You have a perception that a talking woman is a dominating woman.

Can you interrupt politely? Or rudely?

I don't have conversations with certain people because they don't interact with me at all.

It ends up being a grey rock, a wall of words, or a wall of silence.

When I stop to ask a question, I get monotone one word responses. These individuals don't really like me, don't really care what I think, don't really care if I am alive or dead. They will not engage in an interactive dialogue with me.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes this means that the person is nervous. And that’s their coping mechanism.

[Anonymous]

When I dated men who were really into me, they loved sitting and listening to me talk and carry the conversation. They would say it's okay because they don't talk a lot. They don't know what to talk about. I hate being a couple that has hateful looks on their faces and won't look at each other or talk to each other.

First dates, couples are usually talking and looking at each other. 100th date, they look silent cold stoned not speaking.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't mean anything beyond I find them irritating. I know a woman like that who does it because she's extremely arrogant. I don't think it's necessarily seeking power, she just think very highly of herself and wants people to know that/people to think she's better than everyone else.

It drains me and it does her more harm than good because no one respects or likes her.

But men communicate like this too , so I'm not sure why you're singling out women.

[Anonymous]

Anxiety

[Anonymous]

She’s probably nervous or weirded out that you aren’t talking. Kind of disturbing that you jump to control issues. Maybe let her go find a less paranoid guy

[Anonymous]

It means she lacks social skills and self-awareness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When a women talks a ton and completely dominates a conversation with you, what does that mean?

Does that mean she is seeking power over you?

If the person, does not even give you a chance to breathe or say a word because they talk so fast and control the conversation so much. It does not leave you emotionally feeling good at all.

Why do some women communicate in this manner?

So it's just anxiety??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't mean anything beyond I find them irritating. I know a woman like that who does it because she's extremely arrogant. I don't think it's necessarily seeking power, she just think very highly of herself and wants people to know that/people to think she's better than everyone else.

It drains me and it does her more harm than good because no one respects or likes her.

But men communicate like this too , so I'm not sure why you're singling out women.

+1. I know more men like this than women.

[Anonymous]

It means they are ignorant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I dated men who were really into me, they loved sitting and listening to me talk and carry the conversation. They would say it's okay because they don't talk a lot. They don't know what to talk about. I hate being a couple that has hateful looks on their faces and won't look at each other or talk to each other.

First dates, couples are usually talking and looking at each other. 100th date, they look silent cold stoned not speaking.

They were probably thinking about football or something, not listening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I dated men who were really into me, they loved sitting and listening to me talk and carry the conversation. They would say it's okay because they don't talk a lot. They don't know what to talk about. I hate being a couple that has hateful looks on their faces and won't look at each other or talk to each other.

First dates, couples are usually talking and looking at each other. 100th date, they look silent cold stoned not speaking.

It’s called marriage.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the PP who said it can be arrogance. It can also be anxiety, or cluelessness.

I know one woman who is arrogant and is constantly pontificating about something. Another is an airhead and just won't stop talking about nothing. Another that nervous talks. They all are annoying, though I like all three of them in small doses.

Men do it too, but they mostly seem like the first type, arrogance.

Really engaging people know how to create conversation, not dominate it. If they have been speaking for a while, they know to ask a question, then another, find a way for them to engage. I learned early on that some people don't respond as quickly as I do. They have to formulate thoughts before they speak and it isn't instantaneous. So it was learning to wait to speak again. I thought I was filling the void. They just couldn't respond fast enough.

And yes, I had to learn not to dominate a conversation.