Is it reasonable to ask my 12 year old daughter to clean the bathroom?

[Anonymous]

In my mind it seems perfectly normal for a 12 year old to clean a bathroom, but she has been complaining about it to no end and saying none of her friends have to so I just wanted to check. I am even paying her to do it, so it seemed fine to me.

[Anonymous]

Is it her bathroom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it her bathroom?

One of the 2 shared bathrooms (She is an only child, I forgot to mention that)

[Anonymous]

My 10 yr old DD cleans her bathroom 90% of the time

[Anonymous]

Your problem is that you're paying her. That turns it into a job, and people are free to decline jobs. That's different from it being her responsibility as a member of the family who uses the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Her friends probably don't do it, but you are doing the right thing to raise her.

Help her learn to do it. Clean with her, build pleasant associations, and remark upon how nice a clean bathroom is.

[Anonymous]

Hell. Yes.

[Anonymous]

Yes. This is a job for a 10 year old even.

Chores are just a part of being a part of being in a family. All my kids do them and they also see their parents working very hard too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your problem is that you're paying her. That turns it into a job, and people are free to decline jobs. That's different from it being her responsibility as a member of the family who uses the bathroom.

This. Unfortunately I don't have good advice on walking this back, but it shouldn't be something she's paid for.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you have trained her so that she handles chemicals well and sanitation well. Buy her cool purple rubber gloves 🧤 or some other fun color. Crank up the music and have a ‘cleaning’ party. Teach her the sequential steps, etc. Do it with her for the first 3-5 times with gradual release method where she does more each time.

[Anonymous]

yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure you have trained her so that she handles chemicals well and sanitation well. Buy her cool purple rubber gloves 🧤 or some other fun color. Crank up the music and have a ‘cleaning’ party. Teach her the sequential steps, etc. Do it with her for the first 3-5 times with gradual release method where she does more each time.

Make sure she knows not to mix bleach with other chemicals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make sure you have trained her so that she handles chemicals well and sanitation well. Buy her cool purple rubber gloves 🧤 or some other fun color. Crank up the music and have a ‘cleaning’ party. Teach her the sequential steps, etc. Do it with her for the first 3-5 times with gradual release method where she does more each time.

Make sure she knows not to mix bleach with other chemicals.

That's a good shout, I hadn't really thought about that

[Anonymous]

Some variation of this question pops up every couple months. Strange.

[Anonymous]

My only child son started cleaning his bathroom at 12. He’s the only one who uses it though.