Almost 20 year old college student/beer at home with family

[Anonymous]

Just curious if you let your college son, almost 20, drink a beer when he is home with family, like when watching a football game.

Husband is opposed to it, although he knows our DS drinks when he goes out and at college.

Husband doesn't drink.

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious if you let your college son, almost 20, drink a beer when he is home with family, like when watching a football game.

Husband is opposed to it, although he knows our DS drinks when he goes out and at college.

Husband doesn't drink.

Thanks

Follow DH's rules.

We only drink a countable number of drinks per year, 1 or 2 in front of our kids.

Parental example is very tied to outcomes.

Alcohol is a highly optional part of life and is not needed to have fun. Many beverages are equally refreshing.

[Anonymous]

Yes of course.

[Anonymous]

Of course geez some of you are seriously repressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course geez some of you are seriously repressed.

This can only be true if you think things are more fun when buzzed.

To me, things are the same amount of fun when I'm buzzed. I just lose motor coordination and can't drive.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Drinking beer while chilling during a vacation is fine. Your husband does not get to decide what your adult son drinks, the same as nobody is forcing him to drink (decide what he drinks).

[Anonymous]

We raised our kid in Europe, having a drink at home has been normal since they were 18. Just Relax OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course geez some of you are seriously repressed.

This can only be true if you think things are more fun when buzzed.

To me, things are the same amount of fun when I'm buzzed. I just lose motor coordination and can't drive.

good for you.

Some like a buzz. Some like the taste. Some like both.

Bunch of Puritans in here.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but we're either non-drinkers or we drink a half glass twice a year. So if my older teens wanted to do that, sure. As it happens, they're not interested.

[Anonymous]

I would be okay with this and use it as a time to show moderation and that you don’t have to be wasted to have fun.

[Anonymous]

Do you normally have beer in the house? In our house we typically do not so it would involve us going out to buy it for DS. I guess we would if he asked but that never happened. If we had beer around, I would be ok with him drinking it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious if you let your college son, almost 20, drink a beer when he is home with family, like when watching a football game.

Husband is opposed to it, although he knows our DS drinks when he goes out and at college.

Husband doesn't drink.

Thanks

You can't control his consumption but that doesn't mean you can't discourage it.

[Anonymous]

It's not a matter of personal preference anymore, its a proven matter of scientific studies now.

[Anonymous]

https://www.uchealth.org/today/truth-about-alcohol-is-it-healthy/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We raised our kid in Europe, having a drink at home has been normal since they were 18. Just Relax OP.

I hate when people tell other adults to relax