What did you do with your wedding photos if your divorce was acrimonious?

[Anonymous]

We never put our "official" photos in an album and I'm not sure where they are. But the photos I did have access to I cut my ex and his family out of the photos. I put his cutouts back in the small album my MIL gave us. It's pretty funny. Should I give it to him with his stuff? I suppose for our kids' sake I should keep a couple of actual photos though I'm not really sure why....is there a reason to or can I cut him out of all the photos? One silver lining: the giant Catholic bible given to us by his grandmother with our names embossed in gold on the cover that I never knew what to do with??? That's his problem now. I didn't change my name so in large gold leaf it says Jim Creep and Jane Goddess. Anyway friends....the photos. Please help. THANKS!

[Anonymous]

Mine are in a box somewhere in my garage. I don’t care to do anything with them. Maybe my kids will look at them one day.

[Anonymous]

Don't destroy them. Your great-grandchildren will want to know who they look like. And imagine you were happy for some unspecified time before things hit the fan.

That is my personal situation.

[Anonymous]

Keeping them for my kids. Want them to know we had a happy marriage for a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't destroy them. Your great-grandchildren will want to know who they look like. And imagine you were happy for some unspecified time before things hit the fan.

That is my personal situation.

The Great Grandkids can see who they look like without looking at wedding photos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't destroy them. Your great-grandchildren will want to know who they look like. And imagine you were happy for some unspecified time before things hit the fan.

That is my personal situation.

The Great Grandkids can see who they look like without looking at wedding photos.

People don't usually get a lot of pro portraits done as grownups.

Digital pics can get erased and lost pretty easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't destroy them. Your great-grandchildren will want to know who they look like. And imagine you were happy for some unspecified time before things hit the fan.

That is my personal situation.

The Great Grandkids can see who they look like without looking at wedding photos.

People don't usually get a lot of pro portraits done as grownups.

Digital pics can get erased and lost pretty easy.

Our official wedding photos were not portraits. Our photographer had never shot a wedding before. He was a friend of friends who used to shoot bands. So nothing posed. I think our great-grandkids will be ok without the wedding photos.

[Anonymous]

I handed all the wedding photos over to my ex. Zero interest in keeping them, even for the kids. No idea what he did with them.

[Anonymous]

I keep them in a box. Kids or grandkids may want to see them. As it happens, several years after the split, my ex and I are getting along better than in the year after the split. We do enjoy meals with our kids, who are young adults now. We also can talk on the phone about the kids in a positive way.

[Anonymous]

I removed all of my ex’s pictures and his family and tossed them. Ex was an archivist of memories and nostalgia and has no problem keeping a tape from 1997 of a band he heard on the radio…or his book report from sophomore year of college. However he did not hesitate to give me all of our marriage related mementos because he no longer cared. I think he assumed I’d serve as the family archivist after he moved on with AP. In the trash they went. I kept pictures of me and my family.

[Anonymous]

They’re in a box under the stairs in my basement. I figured our kids may want to look at them one day. If not they can be thrown away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I removed all of my ex’s pictures and his family and tossed them. Ex was an archivist of memories and nostalgia and has no problem keeping a tape from 1997 of a band he heard on the radio…or his book report from sophomore year of college. However he did not hesitate to give me all of our marriage related mementos because he no longer cared. I think he assumed I’d serve as the family archivist after he moved on with AP. In the trash they went. I kept pictures of me and my family.

Or he wanted to hurt your feelings and AP wouldn't have let him keep them in the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I removed all of my ex’s pictures and his family and tossed them. Ex was an archivist of memories and nostalgia and has no problem keeping a tape from 1997 of a band he heard on the radio…or his book report from sophomore year of college. However he did not hesitate to give me all of our marriage related mementos because he no longer cared. I think he assumed I’d serve as the family archivist after he moved on with AP. In the trash they went. I kept pictures of me and my family.

Or he wanted to hurt your feelings and AP wouldn't have let him keep them in the house.

I would not be surprised if AP pushed him to eradicate our family memories. He literally previously kept everything. He loved mementos, artifacts from the past. He kept things I had no idea that he kept. He returned everything- the cards I had written to him over the years, pictures. He was deleting our past and I found it insulting that he gave everything to me. I’m not the national f—- archives, so I trashed that crap.

[Anonymous]

Keeping them for the kids.

I still have some happy memories. The end of the marriage was awful and traumatic due to exDH’s untreated mental health issues, and serious emotional abuse. But I can also remember happy times we had and the wedding was very meaningful because all my friends and family were there.

[Anonymous]

Considering you have children, I would keep them. The kids might like to see them someday. If no children, off to the dump they go. FWIW, I have been happily married for almost 40 years and never got the album made. No reason for this, I am not a picture taker 😀 I do have the proofs that the photographer sent me.