Gym crush

[Anonymous]

We both go to the same gym and have noticed each other for a while. I often catch her looking at me and vice versa. Finally, we chatted and talked about working out and how our schedules are so similar. She started following me on social media and I did the same in response. We started to Dm each other and I asked her out for a drink and dinner. Since then, nothing. No response, have not seen her at the gym most of the week and finally, when I did see her, I said Hello. She said Hello and just walked away. Pretty confused about the whole thing....Should I Dm her again asking what happened? We're both in our early 30's...

[Anonymous]

No, she is playing hard to get. Ignore her, she will start contact again, and by then you will have someone else.

[Anonymous]

Nope.
Leave it where you left it.

[Anonymous]

Is she single? Are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We both go to the same gym and have noticed each other for a while. I often catch her looking at me and vice versa. Finally, we chatted and talked about working out and how our schedules are so similar. She started following me on social media and I did the same in response. We started to Dm each other and I asked her out for a drink and dinner. Since then, nothing. No response, have not seen her at the gym most of the week and finally, when I did see her, I said Hello. She said Hello and just walked away. Pretty confused about the whole thing....Should I Dm her again asking what happened? We're both in our early 30's...

She is not interested. If you ask a girl out who likes you she WILL say yes. If she doesn't even respond it means she doesn't look at you that way. It sucks, but move on. Also, the fact she is not speaking to you at the gym as much is her way of showing you she's NOT interested. She likely feels awkward around you now knowing you like her.

Your best way going forward is to act like things are normal. Don't bring up the DMs or asking her out. When you see her smile and say hello. Only make short small talk and go from there. If you try too hard she will back away even more. And 100% DO NOT DM more anymore. You need to act like you asking her out was 100% not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Unfollow her as well.

[Anonymous]

Let it go.

[Anonymous]

The gym is a discusting place to pick people up op. Gross.

[Anonymous]

She’s waiting for the d pic

[Anonymous]

Move on

[Anonymous]

Your communications turned her off; she is no longer attracted to you. She probably researched you online and did not like what she discovered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope.
Leave it where you left it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s waiting for the d pic

This.
Man up and do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your communications turned her off; she is no longer attracted to you. She probably researched you online and did not like what she discovered.

This. Something turned her off. I’m curious why you couldn’t ask her in person? This stands out to me for some reason, even though I don’t know why. Maybe you read her cues wrong?

Either way, she’s not playing “hard to get”, that’s stupid.

[Anonymous]

It's not about you OP. Three things may have happened. Either someone else got to her first and she's now with that guy, or she was already in a relationship and looking to cheat, or she is just the typical female-at-the-gym narcissist trolling the gym for attention, which you supplied.

There should be men-only gyms to stop this sort of thing from happening.