I'm dating someone I have no romantic notions for...

[Anonymous]

Don't mean to ruin everyone's thanksgiving evening with such a negative post but I don't think I can bottle up my emotions for much longer.
Exactly as the title says, other than that he's a wonderful gentleman. Smart, caring, with great decorum. I like him a lot as a friend, and do enjoy spending time with him. But I don't want to kiss him. Any form of physical intimacy is like a torment to me because I have to pretend that I like it.

I really don't know how to break it to him. We are already on date #5. I feel I'm a coward, an a**h***, and I know the longer I avoid it the more I may hurt him. What should I do? Any advice is appreciated.

[Anonymous]

5 dates is nothing, just tell him you arent feeling it. NBD

[Anonymous]

You're not an AH. Sometimes people aren't attracted to someone, and that's fine.

Imagine if the roles were reversed - would you want a guy to force himself to sleep with you if it grossed him out? Of course not.

5 dates is still very early. Ending things over the phone is fine. Even a text is fine.

If you're still chicken - when I was younger I used to sometimes pull "just found out I'm pregnant. I'm 12 weeks along so it's not yours. Sorry! Good luck with everything!"

[Anonymous]

You’re not an AH. You would be if you continue dating him aka stringing him along, but the first few dates are for feeling each other out. You’re not feeling it, no big deal. Break up with him and move on to the next one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're not an AH. Sometimes people aren't attracted to someone, and that's fine.

Imagine if the roles were reversed - would you want a guy to force himself to sleep with you if it grossed him out? Of course not.

5 dates is still very early. Ending things over the phone is fine. Even a text is fine.

If you're still chicken - when I was younger I used to sometimes pull "just found out I'm pregnant. I'm 12 weeks along so it's not yours. Sorry! Good luck with everything!"

Uh, wow.

[Anonymous]

Be honest
End things

[Anonymous]

There’s only one solution. Just do it!

[Anonymous]

That’s the point of dating, to figure out your feelings for someone. So now you know, you enjoy his company but don’t feel a sexual attraction. You let him know and move on.

[Anonymous]

Would you rather be an ahole at 5 months where there are some hurt feelings, or a really horrible human at 1 year or more where there is a broken heart and lost future dreams?

[Anonymous]

You can't kiss him because you don't want to kiss him in particular? Or because you hate any physical intimacy in general?

Given your post, I assume it is the first. In which case, I don't understand why you are asking us what to do. You know full well what to do. You tell him it isn't working out but you would like to remain friends. If he pushes you, you tell him you just don't feel the spark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're not an AH. Sometimes people aren't attracted to someone, and that's fine.

Imagine if the roles were reversed - would you want a guy to force himself to sleep with you if it grossed him out? Of course not.

5 dates is still very early. Ending things over the phone is fine. Even a text is fine.

If you're still chicken - when I was younger I used to sometimes pull "just found out I'm pregnant. I'm 12 weeks along so it's not yours. Sorry! Good luck with everything!"

Needs treatment for borderline personality disorder ^^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're not an AH. Sometimes people aren't attracted to someone, and that's fine.

Imagine if the roles were reversed - would you want a guy to force himself to sleep with you if it grossed him out? Of course not.

5 dates is still very early. Ending things over the phone is fine. Even a text is fine.

If you're still chicken - when I was younger I used to sometimes pull "just found out I'm pregnant. I'm 12 weeks along so it's not yours. Sorry! Good luck with everything!"

Needs treatment for borderline personality disorder ^^

Bwahaha. I started doing that because when I was 20, I ended things with a guy I had gone on a few dates with. He took it extremely poorly and stalked me for weeks - called me nonstop from various numbers and screamed at me if I answered.

Was so terrified of ending things with men after that, I used the pregnancy excuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't kiss him because you don't want to kiss him in particular? Or because you hate any physical intimacy in general?

Given your post, I assume it is the first. In which case, I don't understand why you are asking us what to do. You know full well what to do. You tell him it isn't working out but you would like to remain friends. If he pushes you, you tell him you just don't feel the spark.

No one wants to remain to remains friends. Just do the slow fade.

[Anonymous]

Five dates? I hate to ghost but...

[Anonymous]

Just tell he’s too attractive that you’re intimidated by him and need to step away.