I'm dating someone I have no romantic notions for...

[Anonymous]

Please please just tell him it’s so much better for you and him

[Anonymous]

You are overthinking this. Break up with him. There’s no chemistry and no real relationship

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the logic of dating someone solely because they're "nice". Why not just date your female friends instead of wasting some stranger's time?

[Anonymous]

After 5 dates I would tell him you like him as a friend. Much easier to be honest.

[Anonymous]

This is exactly what dating is for - to figure out if someone has relationship potential. If you’re both mature, maybe you can stay friends, but a lot of people can’t because one side still holds out hope of more. Does he have any cute, single male friends he could introduce you to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't mean to ruin everyone's thanksgiving evening with such a negative post but I don't think I can bottle up my emotions for much longer.
Exactly as the title says, other than that he's a wonderful gentleman. Smart, caring, with great decorum. I like him a lot as a friend, and do enjoy spending time with him. But I don't want to kiss him. Any form of physical intimacy is like a torment to me because I have to pretend that I like it.

I really don't know how to break it to him. We are already on date #5. I feel I'm a coward, an a**h***, and I know the longer I avoid it the more I may hurt him. What should I do? Any advice is appreciated.

I have some good news for you. We men get rejected a lot. You are not as special as you think. If you dump him he will be fine. Just another woman dumping him. Nothing new and he will move on.

[Anonymous]

Why are you wasting your time and his time.
Cut the drama.
End it.

[Anonymous]

Just break up and tell him there’s no chemistry and you don’t see it going anywhere
. Don’t offer to be friends or any of that. Nobody wants to be just friends.

[Anonymous]

If you can't bottle them up, then go see him and uncork

[Anonymous]

Just tell him that you've been enjoying getting to know him, but you two don't have the connection that you're seeking and you need to move on.

[Anonymous]

It is best that you let him know NOW how you feel…..rather than having this drawn out a minute longer.

Yes he will very well be very hurt - but the sooner you tell him how you feel (or do not feel) the much better it will be for the two of you.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't mean to ruin everyone's thanksgiving evening with such a negative post but I don't think I can bottle up my emotions for much longer.
Exactly as the title says, other than that he's a wonderful gentleman. Smart, caring, with great decorum. I like him a lot as a friend, and do enjoy spending time with him. But I don't want to kiss him. Any form of physical intimacy is like a torment to me because I have to pretend that I like it.

I really don't know how to break it to him. We are already on date #5. I feel I'm a coward, an a**h***, and I know the longer I avoid it the more I may hurt him. What should I do? Any advice is appreciated.

Correct

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're not an AH. Sometimes people aren't attracted to someone, and that's fine.

Imagine if the roles were reversed - would you want a guy to force himself to sleep with you if it grossed him out? Of course not.

5 dates is still very early. Ending things over the phone is fine. Even a text is fine.

If you're still chicken - when I was younger I used to sometimes pull "just found out I'm pregnant. I'm 12 weeks along so it's not yours. Sorry! Good luck with everything!"

Uh, wow.

Well it’s better than sleeping with him and telling him he’s the father

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Five dates? I hate to ghost but...

+1

Not something I’d even worry about. I do it and it happens to me. That’s the game don’t hate the players

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just break up and tell him there’s no chemistry and you don’t see it going anywhere
. Don’t offer to be friends or any of that. Nobody wants to be just friends.

+1 men do not want to be your friend unless it comes with benefits