Two same sex siblings, 2 years apart= worst combo?

[Anonymous]

I just read a study that said same sex siblings two years apart are the worst combination for bonding. I was shocked. What is your own experience if you have this combo?

I have 2 boys, 2 years apart 6 and 8.

[Anonymous]

FWIW the families I know with 2 same sex siblings, 3-4 years apart seems to be a rough combo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW the families I know with 2 same sex siblings, 3-4 years apart seems to be a rough combo.

This. I have two daughters who are 3 years apart and opposite personalities.

[Anonymous]

True for my family. My sister and i HATED each other until we were in our late 20s

[Anonymous]

I had this combo growing up. Girl, girl, boy all 2 years apart. Yeah, it was bad, exacerbated by the fact that both my parents only wanted a boy.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is a tough split. Mine are 8 and 10 and have almost nothing in common. They bicker a lot and it drives me insane. One is neurodiverse so that probably amplifies it.

[Anonymous]

My two boys are pretty close and have the same interests.

[Anonymous]

True in my family. My older sister bullied me me whole life. I finally had to ghost her. We haven’t spoken in years.

[Anonymous]

My sister and I were almost 2 years apart but one school grade. It was horrible. She hated having me around and we competed for friends. I could never keep up because she was older so it left me feeling inferior. We were not close. I wanted my kids further apart as a result. As adults we get along well but we are not as close as I am with my brother who was 3 years younger. My own boys are almost 4 years apart and they are super close and bonded. My son and daughter are 2.5 yrs apart and also close. I think being different genders helped.

[Anonymous]

A million variables you can't control will impact the type of bond siblings ultimately have. Note I said ultimately... my sister and I fought but deep down we had each other's back, and we are close as adults. We are same sex twos years apart.
Parents should focus on being good parents, and evoking the Serenity Prayer for the rest.

[Anonymous]

My sister and I are 20 month apart and have been close since day 1. My oldest friend is one of three girls (11 months apart between the oldest two, and 18 months apart between #2 and #3) and are also super tight. It’s not all doom and gloom, and OP, you can’t change it anyway. My daughters are 17 months apart and all seems well.

[Anonymous]

My sister and I are two years apart. We fought like crazy at times but at others got along really well. I, the younger sister, insisted on going to a different college as I did not want to be known as Larla’s sister. We are very close as adults.

I must have not been too scarred as we have 3 kids with about a 2 year age gap between each one. The younger 2 are same gender and currently fight more with each other than the oldest. Oldest gets along best with the youngest, but also shares more interests.

[Anonymous]

I have two DDs with 3.5 years apart and they adore each other at 5 and 8. Different personalities. We will see if it lasts.

[Anonymous]

For my family the two siblings didn’t really get along and have never been close. For my spouse, the two siblings fought a lot as kids but became close as adults.

[Anonymous]

My sister and I are 18 months and very close...I think 2ish years is the most common age gap and I know many many people with this solution who are close. What study was this? Would love to look at their methods