Has anyone taken a break and gone on to get married?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I recently broke up. The breakup was very amicable. We had a nice relationship. However he is under a lot of stress due to caring for a terminally ill parent, a friend who died abruptly, and troubles with his business. he is starting to feel depressed because of these things.

He is starting therapy to learn better coping strategies, and how to process his emotions better. He would like us to remain friends and be open to getting back together in the future.

I was wondering if anyone out there took a break while dating and ended up successfully rekindling things?

[Anonymous]

My friend and her husband broke up for 6 months and then got back together. I wouldn't say they have the healthiest marriage and relationship but they are happy. They have two young children now, I don't know if they will stay married long term. Out of all my friends they would be the couple I would be least surprised to see divorce.

Insecurity on both sides, poor coping mechanisms, selfishness from him, distrust from her were the main reasons for their break up.

[Anonymous]

No offense but this would not be a man in which I would want to marry, let alone date. He has too many issues. He can’t handle work. He can’t handle his family. Do you really want to marry and procreate with a depressed man?

[Anonymous]

Chances of getting back together are very high. However, I don't see a reason to marry him.
I have ex like that. If he gets stressed out, he dumps me so fast. He always comes back though.
Now I'm just a friend to lean on as the running away got old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No offense but this would not be a man in which I would want to marry, let alone date. He has too many issues. He can’t handle work. He can’t handle his family. Do you really want to marry and procreate with a depressed man?

People go through hard times sometimes, gosh! It’s great that he is being upfront OP about what’s going on with him. Seeking out professional help to cope instead of dumping on OP or using unhealthy coping mechanisms. His position actually shows a lot of maturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No offense but this would not be a man in which I would want to marry, let alone date. He has too many issues. He can’t handle work. He can’t handle his family. Do you really want to marry and procreate with a depressed man?

Crazy response. The guy is caring for a terminally ill parent. He is a good quality person.

[Anonymous]

In this situation where he is caring for a terminally ill parent I would give him some grace and keep the doors open.

He sounds like a good quality person.

[Anonymous]

Well,,this is the thing. You need to live your life instead of “waiting.” Of you find each other again someday, great - but you cannot sit around. Get back out there and be open to other people.

[Anonymous]

My brother broke up with his now wife and dated someone else before getting back together with her. They have been married almost 20 years now. We just don’t mention that inbetween time.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I have a friend who dated a guy. He dumped her then she turned around and married someone else. It was a short marriage and after it ended, the ex-boyfriend came back on the scene and they have been married quite awhile now. I guess he realized what he lost and didn’t want to miss his chance.

[Anonymous]

I did with my H. We broke up about a year while he “worked on things”.

I wish we hadn’t gotten back together. Even though he did do therapy, the underlying issues are still there. One of which is that when things get difficult in life, his first reaction is to put zero effort into our relationship. Like right now he’s going through a stressful time at work so no more date nights, no more helping out at home, etc.

[Anonymous]

Yes I have friends who were together 8 years, broke up for a year then got back together, married with a kid. They are happy.

[Anonymous]

DH and I broke up 2 times - we met young, and soon after he went away to law school. We tried but realized quickly how hard a three year long distance relationship (800 miles away) would be. This was in the days before FaceTime/internet so it was all about expensive long distance calls while both of us were in our prime. We tried dating others but it was clear that we really missed each other. After a few hiccups we got married his third year of school have now been happily married for over 30 years.

[Anonymous]

Yes. And then we divorced 12 years later.