Can someone explain the reasoning behind the idea that women control men?

[Anonymous]

In my marriage, I have often received unwarranted and invalid concerns from my MIL that I "control" my husband. Or that in general women have some power over the men that love them especially when perceived by other women.

You hear about how Meghan Markle made Harry leave the monarchy and its all her fault that Harry and William no longer are on speaking terms.

Carol Middleton orchestrated Kate's marriage to William...etc

Its always other women who accuse other women of doing this.

I can tell you, I have no power or control over my husband. I can't imagine making him do something without his will and full cooperation!!

I never understood this. Do other women somehow control their men in ways I am unaware?

[Anonymous]

MIL is controlling and she thinks if she's not controlling him successfully that means someone else is. She can't stand the idea that he's choosing to defy her or avoid her, so she blames DIL. It's simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MIL is controlling and she thinks if she's not controlling him successfully that means someone else is. She can't stand the idea that he's choosing to defy her or avoid her, so she blames DIL. It's simple.

Holy lightbulb moment! It’s this!

[Anonymous]

Of course my H does things for me. (As do I for him)

He also saw in a clearer light some terrible ways his family handles things (as did he for me)

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think women control men. Women are manipulative and use "tricks" to get men to do what they want. What planet are you from? You can change people's minds and the easiest is to change a mind of someone close to you. Obviously women use sex to make men do what they want all the time. If you deny this, you're lying. I'm a woman and I can recognize it all the time (I'm not a feminine woman at all and a scientist to give you an idea, with a "male brain", and I hate manipulation). Also most women would deny this, yes. Have you never heard of men being "pussy whipped"?! Often people don't believe the s* they agreed to while in a relationship until it's over. I'm certain you have power over your husband and his decisions.

[Anonymous]

In my marriage, DH is the controlling person. He is o my happy when he gets his way, and he stops at nothing to get it.

[Anonymous]

I'm missing out if I'm supposed to be the controlling one. Can't say DH "controls" me either. But I certainly can't change his mind about anything. He does a lot for me, he's very attentive and thoughtful, but in no way does he ever "yes, dear" and do what I want. Mostly it is "No, and here's why ..."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I think women control men. Women are manipulative and use "tricks" to get men to do what they want. What planet are you from? You can change people's minds and the easiest is to change a mind of someone close to you. Obviously women use sex to make men do what they want all the time. If you deny this, you're lying. I'm a woman and I can recognize it all the time (I'm not a feminine woman at all and a scientist to give you an idea, with a "male brain", and I hate manipulation). Also most women would deny this, yes. Have you never heard of men being "pussy whipped"?! Often people don't believe the s* they agreed to while in a relationship until it's over. I'm certain you have power over your husband and his decisions.

What planet are YOU from?

Literally never has my husband been "pussy whipped." You sound like a teenaged boy. Obviously not a woman at all. Nor a scientist, or you'd know that anecdotal evidence is not evidence at all.

"Male brain" if you ask me, is influenced by sex and visual stimuli, and are more prone to violence. I don't know other than that to what you are referring. It certainly isn't a positive attribute.

Nobody loves manipulation.

[Anonymous]

Uhhh, misogyny. That's the answer. 99% of women (and humans) aren't smart enough to be controlling anybody. If someone complains that women are controlling their husbands, the short answer is because they hate women.

[Anonymous]

Many men in the US are simps. Simps let women control them.

[Anonymous]

Blaming women. That's the reasoning. Men aren't responsible for their actions if they can blame women. Women seduce, cajole, manipulate... That's the narrative because it allows men to blameshift responsibility for their own behavior (e.g. he chooses to cheat) onto women ("she seduced me").

If women could truly control men, we would have the rampant misogyny we do. The narrative that women control men is rarely used when a man does something right or good or noble. Just when he screws something up.

Blame. That's the reasoning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, misogyny. That's the answer. 99% of women (and humans) aren't smart enough to be controlling anybody. If someone complains that women are controlling their husbands, the short answer is because they hate women.

+1 most people barely control themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

What planet are YOU from?

Literally never has my husband been "pussy whipped." You sound like a teenaged boy. Obviously not a woman at all. Nor a scientist, or you'd know that anecdotal evidence is not evidence at all.

"Male brain" if you ask me, is influenced by sex and visual stimuli, and are more prone to violence. I don't know other than that to what you are referring. It certainly isn't a positive attribute.

Nobody loves manipulation.

I already said majority of women will deny this. Obviously most women are not smart enough to control anybody, which is why they resort to manipulation. Manipulation through sex is very common in intimate relationships. Manipulation through sex is done by women, not men. I don't care what I sound like, nor do I care about your projection. Male brain focuses on logic and seeing patterns, which you obviously lack. There are plenty of men without sex and majority don't commit violence. There is not a single normal heterosexual adult male who hasn't been pussy-whipped. Why do you think your husband puts up with your nonsense? Try cutting sex out and see what happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, misogyny. That's the answer. 99% of women (and humans) aren't smart enough to be controlling anybody. If someone complains that women are controlling their husbands, the short answer is because they hate women.

+1 most people barely control themselves.

I've noticed that people who can't control themselves often want to control others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uhhh, misogyny. That's the answer. 99% of women (and humans) aren't smart enough to be controlling anybody. If someone complains that women are controlling their husbands, the short answer is because they hate women.

+1 most people barely control themselves.

I've noticed that people who can't control themselves often want to control others.

This is a very astute observation. I wonder what the psychology is behind that.