Is it normal for moms to post every playdate and social gathering on social media?

[Anonymous]

There are a few moms in my 2nd grader’s class that post every get together with their children on social media, all the parent get togethers, etc. It’s multiple times a week. I look at these and feel like we’re doing something wrong that we don’t have this level of social interaction and feel like I’m letting DC down for not trying to break into this group or foster my own more fully and put it out there on social media. Feels like these people are always so happy and having fun and we’re just outsiders.

Am I being overly sensitive here or do I need to try harder?

[Anonymous]

Get off social media! As long as your child is happy you are doing fine..

[Anonymous]

They're the ones doing something wrong IMO. Only dorks post multiple times per week on SM in 20204. Unfollow them.

But that's just my opinion. They can have their thoughts and ways and so can I and so can you.

PP is right. Is your kid happy? Are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a few moms in my 2nd grader’s class that post every get together with their children on social media, all the parent get togethers, etc. It’s multiple times a week. I look at these and feel like we’re doing something wrong that we don’t have this level of social interaction and feel like I’m letting DC down for not trying to break into this group or foster my own more fully and put it out there on social media. Feels like these people are always so happy and having fun and we’re just outsiders.

Am I being overly sensitive here or do I need to try harder?

Neither. You need to understand that social media is toxic and you have to avoid it. If you want to take a picture of events your kid and you participate in for your own records and to share with family and friends that is fine. But there is no reason to put it up for the world to see. Social media is fake.

[Anonymous]

I did this with my kids but this was 8-10 years ago. It’s not common now

[Anonymous]

They’re insecure looking for validation online. Unfollow.

[Anonymous]

Read about what AI can do with a relatively small collection of images. Anyone posting pics of their kids publicly is taking a big risk. Save images for your close friends and family. Secondarily, no, this is not normal at all in my circles. We live in a university city with a large tech presence. Parents do not post parties and if they post anything about their children, it’s usually from a public event and mentions the kid but doesn’t show them.

[Anonymous]

Unfollow and delete your freaking accounts. It's 2024. Why do you need to see what real life (boring) people are pathetically sad-bragging about?

I get if you want to follow dogs on Instagram. That's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get off social media! As long as your child is happy you are doing fine..

This is one of the major reasons I got off of social media. Now that my kids are either out of school and/or close to it I may dip my toes back in it. We just felt like we were on the fringes and 100% getting off social media helped tremendously. I think seeing it and cultivating a “so what” attitude is better; I just couldn’t manage that at the time. Back then all the concerns about social media and FOMO hadn’t arisen either so I didn’t have much guidance or support on navigating this situation.

[Anonymous]

Who cares? They live they life how you want, and you live yours. If it bothers you, get off or unfollow them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re insecure looking for validation online. Unfollow.

This

[Anonymous]

We do not do any social media. It is a personal preference choice. Do as you wish.

[Anonymous]

Is this a private group? Even if so, it's a stalker pedo playground.

[Anonymous]

That is so ten years ago. I’m not into giving FB more free data than it already has, and is a privacy violation with many repercussions. Hang out with smarter people.

[Anonymous]

I know one mom who shares everything on social media and it doesn't read to me at all like bragging, it's just kind of sad and seems lonely. There are like 20 pictures every day of her 8yo, their every move is documented, it's really weird to me.