Why do so many women have experiences with top tier men?

[Anonymous]

While average men don't seem to have nearly as many experiences with their dream girls. For example, a woman in this article lays out how she spent a year only dating men with her superficial dream qualities.

"After a long, toxic relationship with a guy who was a total waste of my time, I decided to have some fun with dating and only go out with dudes who had my dream guy qualities. For an entire year, I only dated guys who were over six feet tall, and while I felt kind of silly a lot of the time, it was also kinda fun."

https://www.bolde.com/spent-year-dating-guys-six-feet-heres-like/

I hear this type of thing in real life too. I've heard plenty of women talk about their dating experiences with very handsome men, very tall men, very wealthy men, professional athletes, entertainers or maybe even local celebrities. I never hear average guys talk about the hot woman they went out with over the weekend - presumably because they did not go out with one over the weekend.

Why don't men seem to have dealings with their "dream" women nearly as frequently as women have dealings with their dream men?

[Anonymous]

Because men will date anyone willing to have sex with them.

[Anonymous]

and these men may be dating 4-6 women at a time

[Anonymous]

So what can the average man do to have experiences with dream women? What about limiting 'likes' on dating apps only to the women they find most attractive?

[Anonymous]

The top tier men are going through a new woman every week or two, so that's why a lot of women get to experience them.

Probably not the same for top tier women.

[Anonymous]

Well, you always hear about the prettiest girl in school sitting at home on Saturday night.

I don’t know, OP. Why aren’t men dating more? Why aren’t they going out at all over the weekend? Video games? Internet? Legalized marijuana?

[Anonymous]

I dated a lot of “dream men” in my 20s.

Biggest things I did:

1. Actively went to places where these men were.

2. Very social, could strike up a conversation with anyone.

3. Had interests beyond just the standard fitness/clothes/feminine stuff. A lot were more male interests, so we had things to talk about.

Where I see a lot of men (and women) go wrong is they just passively swipe on dating apps and they don’t have a personality beyond looks or work.

If men took interest in more female dominated hobbies, went out more, and were social, they’d attract better women.

For example, I started more male dominated hobbies like lifting and firearms. So I was around top tier men on a weekly basis and could have a conversation. How many men go to yoga classes or

[Anonymous]

Average guys can get top tier women....if they offer commitment to them. The problem is that the average guys want a rotation of top tier women just like the top tier men have. So they're their own worst enemy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what can the average man do to have experiences with dream women? What about limiting 'likes' on dating apps only to the women they find most attractive?

I don’t know. First of all, you named six different categories of men that you consider “top tier.” Maybe make six categories of “top tier” women instead of one.
And then you have to get off your couch and go out in order to date and have experiences with women of any tier. “Likes” aren’t enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated a lot of “dream men” in my 20s.

Biggest things I did:

1. Actively went to places where these men were.

2. Very social, could strike up a conversation with anyone.

3. Had interests beyond just the standard fitness/clothes/feminine stuff. A lot were more male interests, so we had things to talk about.

Where I see a lot of men (and women) go wrong is they just passively swipe on dating apps and they don’t have a personality beyond looks or work.

If men took interest in more female dominated hobbies, went out more, and were social, they’d attract better women.

For example, I started more male dominated hobbies like lifting and firearms. So I was around top tier men on a weekly basis and could have a conversation. How many men go to yoga classes or

Oops, I got submit too soon. But how many men go to yoga classes or can go shopping, and can strike up normal conversations without the “hitting on” vibe? Very few. Most complain about how boring shopping is and would spend a yoga class being a creep.

If you want a top tier woman, who presumably is heavily into fashion, hair, makeup, and women-centric fitness, you need to both appreciate and understand those things rather than complain about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what can the average man do to have experiences with dream women? What about limiting 'likes' on dating apps only to the women they find most attractive?

I don’t know. First of all, you named six different categories of men that you consider “top tier.” Maybe make six categories of “top tier” women instead of one.
And then you have to get off your couch and go out in order to date and have experiences with women of any tier. “Likes” aren’t enough.

These are all extremely desirable qualities that no more than 2% of men possess.

[Anonymous]

I’m a man who has dated a slept with many “top tier” women who won’t commit to me while having a stable of 7s I can call any time for a fun evening and sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what can the average man do to have experiences with dream women? What about limiting 'likes' on dating apps only to the women they find most attractive?

I don’t know. First of all, you named six different categories of men that you consider “top tier.” Maybe make six categories of “top tier” women instead of one.
And then you have to get off your couch and go out in order to date and have experiences with women of any tier. “Likes” aren’t enough.

These are all extremely desirable qualities that no more than 2% of men possess.

Okay? But if you’ve got six of them, then you are expanding to 8 or 10 percent of men, right? Even if there is some overlap?

[Anonymous]

Let’s define “top tier” woman. This would be someone like Taylor Swift, Rachel Hilbert, etc.

“Top tier” women do not go out with average men. They just do not. They have so many choices with men and men approaching them constantly giving them gifts, trips, etc. If the man does not have status- famous, wealthy, power, etc, he will not be in the same circles as a “top tier” woman. He just will not break through her entourage/circle.

A “top tier” man will go out with any woman he is physically attracted to regardless of her status.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and these men may be dating 4-6 women at a time

Men > 6 feet in height is only 15% of US population. Only half have an IQ above 100 so that reduces the pool to 7% of men. Only 10% of the 7% above average IQ men under the age of 35 have incomes >250K per year. These women are targeting .7% of the US male population under 35 regardless of marital status and are easily sharing the same man with 4-6 other women.

How many of these unmarried unicorns exist in the DMV?