Tween throwing clothes in the bathroom floor everyday
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Anonymous
| I have tried telling nicely, screaming, nothing is working. Every day DD throws her clothes on the bathroom floor in her bathroom that she shares with sibling. Initially I tried telling nicely that this is not acceptable and I am not her maid to pick it up and put it in the laundry basket in the laundry room which is just 2 doors down in the same upper level. It's not like she has to go to the basement. It didn't work and she either ignored me or said she will do it but never did. I started screaming and that doesn't work either. Now she has resorted to throwing things in the floor in the laundry room or in the kids bathroom and it is like a pile there in both places. And if she likes a certain top she rummages through the laundry baskets, dumps everything else on the floor and takes the unlaundered top to use again. I've tried taking away the laptop or Chromebook chargers so she won't be able to use those as a consequence but she doesn't care and takes a book and goes to read. I am at my wits end. |
Anonymous
| Start confiscating the clothes. |
Anonymous
This. Sooner or later she will run out of clean clothes and realize she has a problem. |
Anonymous
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Tell her that you'll get rid of her clothes that are on the floor. If she can't be bothered to put them where they belong, you'll give them away.
I'd also start making her sort all of the laundry for the entire family so that she can start to appreciate how much work it can be. |
Anonymous
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Just....put a laundry basket in the bathroom. Some things aren't worth this much of a battle over. You're at a battle of wills at this point and she's winning and you're losing it (screaming over clothes being on the floor).
Also, I assume you've stopped doing her laundry if she's leaving them in piles on the floor. This reminds me of the dynamic I had with my mom when I was a bratty teen. I didn't do any of the things she asked me to do because she eventually did them. Why bother cleaning up stuff if she was going to do it anyways? |
Anonymous
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1. She should do her own laundry. Give her a basket in her room. She can wear dirty clothes or collect them and wash them, no longer your concern.
2. She's been warned, so clothes left lying outside of her room get dealt with by you. Say this clearly, but maybe it's toss things that are too small or worn out, maybe it's donate things because she has too much, maybe you hold on to them and she can do extra chores to get them back. |
Anonymous
NP and maybe I’ll start doing that. Same issue. Both of mine are leaving everything in a pile in the bathroom. I told them this morning I was starting a $5 pick up fine per day but I wonder if taking the clothes would be more effective. |
Anonymous
This. Whatever is on the floor belongs to you now and she may or may not ever see these again. |
Anonymous
| Get a grip. If laundry on the bathroom floor is your breaking point, you should seek help immediately. |
Anonymous
| Just don't do her laundry? Let it lie where she dropped it. Step on it if it is in your way. When she's down to her least favorite clothes she'll come around. |
Anonymous
| OP here. Space is kind of small for a laundry basket in the bathroom but I think I could try that. Maybe if it is annoying to keep moving that out of the way each time she might learn something. She does her own laundry, that's why when she doesn't do it for 2 weeks and wants something she rummages through things in the laundry room. We have a basket for each kid in there but since she does laundry when she feels like it, it piles up. |
Anonymous
This. I told my teens that I only wash clothes that are in the hamper. And I follow through, and I don’t do last minute loads when they realize they left their smelly uniform in their gym bag all week. Too bad, wear it stinky, not my problem. (If they leave laundry lying around where it bothers other people I throw it on their beds) They’re still not perfect but they’re getting significantly better. |
Anonymous
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This is so far down on the list of thing I care about. So what if there are clothes on the floor?
My kid does this-there’s a mountain of clothes in his bathroom until it’s time to do laundry. He then picks them up and does his laundry. I don’t do it for him. The only time I will pick it up for him is if the cleaners are coming. Kid has late practices and early start times so if I have to pick them up once every other week so be it. Kid is great overall so I’m not going to get on his case about a pile of clothes on the floor. Older 2 kids were like this too and they’ve managed to become functioning adults who now contain their clothes to their room and not shared spaces. |
Anonymous
Different scenario. This isn’t in her own room, this is in a shared bathroom so it impacts other members of the family. |
Anonymous
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NP here. I have resorted to putting those clothes into her bed. She got annoyed at that!
If you confiscate, figure out how she's going to earn them back. Chores, buying them back, etc. And I had one kid who would purposely get his uniforms confiscated in the hope that he did not have to go to school. (Had to make allowance conditional on school attendance in proper clothing.) |