Family wedding in Europe (not a destination wedding)

[Anonymous]

A family member who lives in Europe has a wedding scheduled for a week after a school break. By this, I mean that the break happens, kid is supposed to be back in school for a week, and then the wedding is the following weekend.

My kid is in mid-elementary school and not the easiest going child out there. I’m getting a lot of family pressure to go to the wedding, but it just feels like it will be a disaster because I don’t want to take my kid out of school long enough for them to get used to the time change. I’m getting a lot of pressure from my parents to go, but they want to turn it into a family vacation despite the fact that I’m not really interested in taking my kid out of school for an entire week after their break.

WWYD? Take the kid out of school for multiple days after break or not go at all?

[Anonymous]

Can you go alone and leave child in school and at home with other parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you go alone and leave child in school and at home with other parent?

This. Or don’t go. You can always say that you can’t take the time off if you work.

[Anonymous]

Our family in Europe didn’t come to our wedding, and none of them even had small children . Is the wedding in Italy, by chance? Next year is a year of Jubilee in the Catholic Church. You can use the excuse that plane tickets are more expensive than usual.

[Anonymous]

I would take my kid out BUT he's always easily adjusted to time changes and is a fairly easy going kid. In your shoes, I probably wouldn't. Can you go by yourself?

[Anonymous]

I'd go alone.

[Anonymous]

Team go by yourself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
WWYD? Take the kid out of school for multiple days after break or not go at all?

Of course take them out. A week abroad will be much more educational than a year in public schools, if you want to make comparisons. Just don't stay indoors on their phone, but go see the sites.

[Anonymous]

I would pull out an elementary school kid, but not ms or hs.

[Anonymous]

If you don’t want to go, don’t. Would they fly to your wedding at an inconvenient time in the US? If not, you’re totally off hook. But even if so, you still don’t have to. I would probably pull my kid and go if I really wanted to. But you don’t want to and it’s not fair to pressure you. You’re also not obligated to separate from your child and go on your own.

[Anonymous]

You get to decide what you do with your time, not your parents. Grow a backbone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our family in Europe didn’t come to our wedding, and none of them even had small children . Is the wedding in Italy, by chance? Next year is a year of Jubilee in the Catholic Church. You can use the excuse that plane tickets are more expensive than usual.

That’s a dumb excuse

[Anonymous]

I would never take my kid out of school for a wedding. School has priority and I disagree with PP claiming a week in Europe would be "more educational than a year in public school". BS, people here overestimate the impact of a pleasure trip on the education of children and teenagers.

[Anonymous]

You are an adult with a child. Don’t let your parents bully you into attending a far away wedding. Be firm and end the discussion.

[Anonymous]

Missing a week of school in ES is nbd. If you want to go, go. If you don't, don't. If you don't think your kid will do well with the change, leave kid home with other parent amd go yourself