Husband went Costco shopping today.

[Anonymous]

He's mid-40s and diabetic. My son is big/heavy for his age and all this is giving me anxiety.

1. Pork chops - He's marinating the entire large pack for 3 people.
2. Hershey chocolate bars full size
3. Chips jumbo size bag
4. 2 packs danishes - he ate 1 after lunch.
5. Sweet tea

I don't know what to do, he got defensive in the past when I joked that he lost the privilege to grocery shopping. Just venting here.

[Anonymous]

I wasn't a great eater but I was an average eater until serious health issues caused me to have to get very serious about being a great eater. I now eat a super high fiber whole foods home cooked diet that is mostly plants with only a little bit of animal products - mostly cream, parmesan cheese and occasionally some chicken.

I look at how some of my loved ones eat and it is dismaying - lots of animal fats and lots of ultra processed junk food. It makes me sad only because I feel so great on my new healthier diet and I know they would feel better if they ditched the junk food and sugar and saturated fats too, but you can't control other people. It must be hard to watch a spouse wallow in poor habits and model them to a child, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's mid-40s and diabetic. My son is big/heavy for his age and all this is giving me anxiety.

1. Pork chops - He's marinating the entire large pack for 3 people.
2. Hershey chocolate bars full size
3. Chips jumbo size bag
4. 2 packs danishes - he ate 1 after lunch.
5. Sweet tea

I don't know what to do, he got defensive in the past when I joked that he lost the privilege to grocery shopping. Just venting here

Sounds like either he doesn't know that sugar is the problem, or else doesn't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wasn't a great eater but I was an average eater until serious health issues caused me to have to get very serious about being a great eater. I now eat a super high fiber whole foods home cooked diet that is mostly plants with only a little bit of animal products - mostly cream, parmesan cheese and occasionally some chicken.

I look at how some of my loved ones eat and it is dismaying - lots of animal fats and lots of ultra processed junk food. It makes me sad only because I feel so great on my new healthier diet and I know they would feel better if they ditched the junk food and sugar and saturated fats too, but you can't control other people. It must be hard to watch a spouse wallow in poor habits and model them to a child, too.

Animal fats are healthy. So are saturated fats.
You hit the nail on the head in regards to sugar and carbohydrates in general and processed foods like oils and packaged stuff.

[Anonymous]

yeah you need to take over

[Anonymous]

Can you return the unopened candy and chips?

[Anonymous]

No. There are a lot of people who should not have a Costco membership and your husband is one of them. My husband is a hoarder: I made a big stink about him getting a Costco membership and he eventually let it expire. He still manages to hoard food in our house with just the regular grocery runs, but at least I don't have to trip over supersized packs of stuff.

Also, he needs a refresher on what diabetes is, what it does to the body, and how soon your divorce will materialize if he insists on foisting on you an easily preventable caregiving burden. You don't need more dead weight in your life.

[Anonymous]

Its the food system's fault. Clearly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its the food system's fault. Clearly

It is. There's always a part of individual responsibility, and also a part of societal responsibility. We can't let the food lobby push unhealthy stuff on us all the time.

[Anonymous]

I don't let my husband grocery shop. Simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't let my husband grocery shop. Simple.

How nice for you that he complies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't let my husband grocery shop. Simple.

How nice for you that he complies.

I'd wager he binge eats when she is not around.

[Anonymous]

You can’t control other people.

[Anonymous]

Save the Chocolate for Trick or Treat. Big bag of chips for your next party. Freeze the pastry individually.Package cooked chops in meal size portions and freeze. Take back DHs card!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its the food system's fault. Clearly

It is. There's always a part of individual responsibility, and also a part of societal responsibility. We can't let the food lobby push unhealthy stuff on us all the time.

Did the food lobby push all the carts full of garbage to the cash registers at the Costco today?

You can go to Costco and not buy big piles of garbage. We do it all the time.