Would this bother you?

[Anonymous]

My husband spits phlegm into the sink, waste baskets, glasses, etc and I’m starting to be really disgusted by it. If I have congestion, then I spit it into a tissue or the toilet. He has congestion every day so this can be a frequent occurrence.

Do I need to get over this? Or is this legit disgusting? Or a halfway point?

[Anonymous]

Waste basket and sink wouldn't bother me (assuming he rinsed the sink after). A glass is pretty gross though. I don't want to see someone's mucous

[Anonymous]

See a respiratory specialist

[Anonymous]

When my husband had that problem, thankfully only briefly, he would spit in the toilet and flush. In a wastebasket? Gross!

[Anonymous]

You should have put a trigger warning in the thread title. I just about threw up reading the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have put a trigger warning in the thread title. I just about threw up reading the OP.

Does that mean you think it is disgusting?

[Anonymous]

nasty wtf?!

[Anonymous]

He’s chugging too much dairy.

[Anonymous]

Disgusting. Yes, that would really bother me. Go into the bathroom and take care of it with tissue. At most spot into the toilet then flush.

Gross.

[Anonymous]

That is disgusting

[Anonymous]

Ew, I had to stop reading your post. Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

My roommate used to do this. He knew I hated the noise and attempted to be considerate by doing it while showering...but I still heard him.

It's legit disgusting, OP.

[Anonymous]

By sink do you mean bathroom sink or kitchen sink?
Kitchen sink is an absolute never.
Bathroom sink I could deal with if he cleaned up after which I assume he doesn't since you're asking.
Wastebasket is a gray area for me. . middle of night fine. Just being lazy and not going to the bathroom no okay.
Glasses always gross

Pretty disgusting overall and I say this as someone with a lot of congestion.

[CosmicFlower]

That would really bother me. It's not just about personal hygiene, but also about respect for the space you both share.

[Anonymous]

I"m surprised the thread's gotten this far and no one has addressed the grossness and disrespect of spreading illness. I know, folks, he's spitting not because he's sick but because he's congested generally, but if he DOES have anything contagious, he's contaminating the sink(s), etc. Beyond gross, it's incredibly oblivious of him. He needs to use tissues every time and dispose in a covered trash can like a kitchen can that has a lid. At worst, maybe in the toilet, but then he needs to flush--who wants that crud sitting in the toilet?!

And OP, if he's got so much phlegm he has to spit it out every day like you note--? He needs to see a doctor, maybe an ENT, and figure out WTF is going on. It's not normal, no matter what he will tell you, to have so much on a daily basis, if you're not actively sick, that you must expel it like this. I suspect he also may have developed a habit of "needing" to spit and now believes it's normal and if he doesn't do it, he'll be "choking" on it or whatever. That's a learned habit based on a condition he needs to get treated. Dry that stuff up with a decongestant. See a doctor.