Introduce self to boy's parents?
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Anonymous
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My DD is going to hang out with a boy whose parents I don't know at his house. I confirmed parents are home. She also is a good kid, and I confirmed our rules (no hanging out in his room, etc.).
On the one hand, my parents never knew where I was ever and I turned out fine (Gen X). On the other hand, I feel like I should meet the parents when I drop my DD off and eyeball them. WWYD? |
Anonymous
| How old? |
Anonymous
| 15 |
Anonymous
| HS sophomore |
Anonymous
| At age 15, no I wouldn’t. Especially if you already talked to them on the phone. |
Anonymous
| As long as they're not legal adults, I always meet the parents. My kids are young adults and teens (youngest is 14), and it's worked for us. |
Anonymous
| I don’t think I would do this past the age of 13. |
Anonymous
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If you’ve never met the parents and haven’t eyeballed them, then you have NOT:
“confirmed parents are home” and NOT “Confirmed no hanging out in his room.” |
Anonymous
| The first time my daughter went to her now boyfriend’s house, I was invited in during the drop off. We all chatted for a few minutes. It was nice. A year later, we chat briefly sometimes when one of us is dropping off or picking up the kids. It’s very casual and nice. |
Anonymous
Yeah I don’t get this either … |
Anonymous
| Dp. Op, thank you for this thread. Similar dilemma on my end. |
Anonymous
| No I would not do this for a 15 year old. It’s not really any guarantee of your kids wellbeing (“they seem nice”) and much more important is how you and dd communicate about safety etc. I do enjoy meeting my kids friends/SOs parents when ur happens organically, but not in the playdate model |
Anonymous
Wait, so you would talk to the parents of the 15yo boy to tell them no hanging out in his room? |
Anonymous
| Yes, kid the same age. We call the parent to verify things. Most will meet us outside to say hi. If they don't, no visit. |
Anonymous
+1 |