Invite Etiquette

[Anonymous]

If your child is invited to someone's party and attends, are you obligated to invite that child to any parties going forward? My DD is in first grade and got the first bday invite of the year to a party of a girl she is not close to who is inviting all the girls (27) in their grade. Last year, we invited our homeroom and a few other kids to a back-to-school party and DD's birthday party. We were going to have another back-to-school party next weekend inviting entire homeroom (16 kids) and a few girls DD plays with at recess. Am I obligated to invite this girl whose birthday party she is going to tomorrow?

I have considered inviting everyone in the grade (46) to our party but our backyard isn't huge and I worry about too many people RSVPing yes, especially if they bring siblings. Last year was about the perfect number of kids after inviting her homeroom and two other recess friends.

[Anonymous]

Because the party dates are close together and because it sounds like your party is on the larger side, it would be good etiquette to invite her. If you were having a small party (just a few kids) or if her party was months and months ago, it would probably be ok not to invite her if the two aren’t close.

[Anonymous]

Just invite this kid. It's one kid.

[Anonymous]

I agree that it would be nice. It's just one kid.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PPs. Yes.

[Anonymous]

Obligated no, but a good person would invite the kid.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

OP, thanks everyone. She will be invited.

[Anonymous]

Weird. No, not at all.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Not obligated but yes, good etiquette.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child is invited to someone's party and attends, are you obligated to invite that child to any parties going forward? My DD is in first grade and got the first bday invite of the year to a party of a girl she is not close to who is inviting all the girls (27) in their grade. Last year, we invited our homeroom and a few other kids to a back-to-school party and DD's birthday party. We were going to have another back-to-school party next weekend inviting entire homeroom (16 kids) and a few girls DD plays with at recess. Am I obligated to invite this girl whose birthday party she is going to tomorrow?

I have considered inviting everyone in the grade (46) to our party but our backyard isn't huge and I worry about too many people RSVPing yes, especially if they bring siblings. Last year was about the perfect number of kids after inviting her homeroom and two other recess friends.

You’re inviting 16 kids from home room so these are both boys and girls? If just girls, plus the few girls from recess, that’s almost all the girls (you said 27). That is an issue because then you’d be excluding only a few girls.

If the home room invite is coed, maybe considering inviting just the girls this year, which sounds like it wouldn’t increase the number of invites that much.

[Anonymous]

Who invited 46 kids over? Or even 27?! I find even 12-15 a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Santa Claus is coming