What happens at a hoco after party?
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Anonymous
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I have a son in high school. His friends are making plans for homecoming. One mom took the lead and made a dinner reservation. However, there are some kids we know from elementary or other kids the boys have known for a while who also want to be included. I don’t even know who made this reservation except my kid is included.
I’m considering allowing my son to have an after party. We have a 15,000sf house and our basement is 6000sf. There is a bar down there though with a lot of expensive alcohol. In years past, my kid has had friends over (up to 10) and I never worried or thought about kids drinking alcohol from our bar. It gives me pause because this is now high school. How do after parties work? Is it mostly word of mouth? DS has never even invited any girls to his birthday party before. Just typing this out sounds like it may be a bad idea. I admit I was a bit of a party girl when I was a teen and I would not want my son to be at the parties that I went to when I was a teen. |
Anonymous
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You would absolutely need to take all the alcohol out of there.
I think a scary movie, non-alcoholic drinks and snacks would all entertain them. Maybe some more grown up games as well? |
Anonymous
Just posting to say I am jealous sitting in my 1K sq foot house 
I would take the alcohol out and then let them have fun! |
Anonymous
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1) Your son may plan on a certain number of friends, but more will show up. Some of whom your kid won't know very well.
2) I assume these are freshmen. At least a few will try to bring in alcohol, even if it's not the majority. Plean to go down there every so often and "check if they need more snacks" etc. |
Anonymous
| Ooh your son's first sex and alcohol party! Congrats |
Anonymous
| This is a bad idea. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| I'm excited |
Anonymous
| I think you should not host an after party if you have lots of alcohol in your home, and especially not if you are a former party girl who kinda shrugs at teen drinking. You don't want to be liable if something bad happens at your house, like a rape or overdose. Best of luck... |
Anonymous
| buy condoms. put them in every candy dish. that is a lot of space for teens to sneak off and have $ex. |
Anonymous
| Please don't host. Striver parents host. Stop with this. |
Anonymous
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First, parents are not involved in HoCo plans. Kids almost always make their own reservations. If a parent hosts afterward, it’s usually the kids organizing who is attending. I have hosted the pre HoCo get-together (for photos, food). My kid gave me details, organized it and I just made sure there was food and my house was clean.
I would be cautious about hosting in such a large house. It will be nearly impossible to contain everyone and you will not be able to keep an eye on things. But to answer your question, yes, a party of that size spreads by word of mouth. Good luck. Things with teenagers take on a life of their own. |
Anonymous
| In a similar place with freshman DD. We talked through it, and she ended up saying it was a bad idea. Per DD, kids she barely knows/doesn't know will show up, even if she doesn't invite them. Even if I make kids leave their backpacks (they'll 100% sneak in alcohol if you don't), they will hide small bottles in their clothes and spike their non-alcoholic drinks. She said you can guarantee that there will be kids vaping. In the end, she said it's just too risky, and she doesn't want kids wrecking the house. |
Anonymous
+1000. I just can’t with these parents. |
Anonymous
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No good can come of it
No After-Party. So unnecessary |