If you had an amazing wedding, but then divorced, is the wedding (day) still a fond memory?
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Anonymous
| I hope this isn't triggering for anyone. A dear friend is going through a nasty divorce. I was in her wedding, it was really gorgeous with lots of friends and family. She told everyone her wedding day was the best day of her life whenever wedding discussions would come up over the years. My wedding day was also top 3 days of my life (kids No. 1 and 2) but I'm still happily married. I'm trying to wrap my head around how an amazing wedding day, the honeymoon, the memories, and (digital) photos are viewed after a divorce. Are there still fond memories or do you just try to block it all out and never look at the photos? Is even a thought of the (formerly) amazing wedding day now a painful memory? |
Anonymous
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Nah. Getting married is easy, staying married is the hard part. That was some great advice I got years ago. I love that I enjoyed the day and that almost 15 years later, people still tell me how fun our wedding was.
Divorce is a sad ending, but lots of stuff between that and the wedding day to dwell on. |
Anonymous
Even after you divorced, friends and family randomly tell you they had fun at your wedding? |
Anonymous
| Very bittersweet for me. I love my kids very much, but I can't overstate how much having kids messed up our marriage. |
Anonymous
| I often see people post pictures from their wedding day on social media...years after they are divorced. But its often because that's the last good picture they have of a grandparent or close friend. For a lot of people, its one of the last times in their lives that they had their entire family or friend group together. For that reason alone, I am sure there are happy memories. |
Anonymous
| My wedding was still a beautiful day. We had a lot of good times, and I still view most of them that way. I can look at photos and it’s not a trigger for me, but I would completely understand others reacting differently. I have my own triggers but I try not to make 25 years of my life seem all bad. |
Anonymous
Not randomly, but if we are reminiscing, sure. Lots of stuff happens on a wedding day. Our make-up artist was super SLOW, made me late, so that's been something that comes up from time to time. But I had one friend who loved a good party and was super social, she made it a point to tell me how that was the most fun she and her family had that night. She was a good friend. 
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Anonymous
| I've heard that some people know on their wedding day that they're making a mistake. If that happened to you, how do you remember it? |
Anonymous
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Wedding is the sole reason for a lot of marriages all over the world.
I would like to hear from people who didn't have a grand wedding but found lifelong happiness in their marriage. |
Anonymous
My parents got married at city hall over 50 years ago, and they are still very much in love. |
Anonymous
^ Sorry, OP - I don't mean to derail your thoughtful and interesting thread. |
Anonymous
Then you should write a post asking for that. That’s not what OP requested. |
Anonymous
| I didn’t have an extravagant wedding, but I was very happy with it. Everyone I loved was in one place, we had fun dancing, the food was good. I look back on it fondly. A little sadly, because we were so young and full of love and that didn’t last. But mostly I remember the positives of that day. |
Anonymous
| Yes why not? My marriage was great for 10 years, not so for the last 10. Just because I’m divorced doesn’t take away the wedding and great 10 years. |
Anonymous
| Yes it was a nice party and i looked beautiful |