Parents who hover over kids at college

[Anonymous]

Is anyone else ever shocked at what parents will ask on college family pages on Facebook? I see posts like "Where can my kid find quarters on campus to do laundry?" Or "what should my kid do if they lost their ID?" Or "does my kid need to tell someone if they go home for the weekend?"

I see posts like this on a daily basis for my kid's university (large public flagship) and while, sure, it's possible some of them need extra help, I can't help but wonder how these kids are going to succeed in life. What is with all these hovering parents???

[Anonymous]

I see it at my kids Ivy, it’s everywhere.

[Anonymous]

I typically assume their child has special needs. We don't know everyone's story.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think the kids themselves aren’t able to be resourceful. The parents just think they are idiots and need to solve every issue for them. By the time they get back to them on where the quarters are the kids will have already figured it out.

[Anonymous]

There's not an app for laundry?

[Anonymous]

It's definitely not top tier fraternity kids whose parents are doing this.

[Anonymous]

I was in a FB group for parents and I had to leave. I had nothing but snarky responses to post. Those people are just crazy.

[Anonymous]

What makes me sad is how many parents are saying their kids are having trouble making friends and other parents offering to have the kids get together. Also big flagship. Maybe not a great choice of school. But watching it all play out publicly on facebook is really tough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What makes me sad is how many parents are saying their kids are having trouble making friends and other parents offering to have the kids get together. Also big flagship. Maybe not a great choice of school. But watching it all play out publicly on facebook is really tough.

It's hard to make friends when everyone is staring at their phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think the kids themselves aren’t able to be resourceful. The parents just think they are idiots and need to solve every issue for them. By the time they get back to them on where the quarters are the kids will have already figured it out.

Kids sometimes don’t say what they mean. My kid will say they don’t know how to do x, but they are not really asking for help. They are thinking out loud or venting or maybe it means they are scared.

Some of those parents are jumping in when they probably have not been asked to do so just because their kid is bringing up quotidian topics like, “Idk where to get quarters.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes me sad is how many parents are saying their kids are having trouble making friends and other parents offering to have the kids get together. Also big flagship. Maybe not a great choice of school. But watching it all play out publicly on facebook is really tough.

It's hard to make friends when everyone is staring at their phone.

My kid is having no trouble. You gotta join a club that meets frequently and has a goal—a performance, a game, or whatnot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes me sad is how many parents are saying their kids are having trouble making friends and other parents offering to have the kids get together. Also big flagship. Maybe not a great choice of school. But watching it all play out publicly on facebook is really tough.

It's hard to make friends when everyone is staring at their phone.

I don't think hanging out in the dorm and meeting kids the old fashioned way has died. All the girls I know are meeting plenty of kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else ever shocked at what parents will ask on college family pages on Facebook? I see posts like "Where can my kid find quarters on campus to do laundry?" Or "what should my kid do if they lost their ID?" Or "does my kid need to tell someone if they go home for the weekend?"

I see posts like this on a daily basis for my kid's university (large public flagship) and while, sure, it's possible some of them need extra help, I can't help but wonder how these kids are going to succeed in life. What is with all these hovering parents???

There are entire channels on the TikTok mocking this.

It is absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I typically assume their child has special needs. We don't know everyone's story.

No, this isn’t it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What makes me sad is how many parents are saying their kids are having trouble making friends and other parents offering to have the kids get together. Also big flagship. Maybe not a great choice of school. But watching it all play out publicly on facebook is really tough.

It's hard to make friends when everyone is staring at their phone.

You seem to have no clue on how college aged kids make friends.