Anything I can do of kids with parents divorcing?

[Anonymous]

My 7yo daughter has a friend whose parents are divorcing. The mom had told me at the end of the school year that the dad was leaving her. Today at drop off the kids and mom were crying.

Is there anything I can do?

We are not close friends. Our kids are also not close friends. They were in the same class last year but separate classes this year.

[Anonymous]

You're not close friends. The kids aren't close friends. I think anything outside of a little extra conversational kindness (between you and kid, or kid to kid) when the opportunities arise would invite serious awkwardness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're not close friends. The kids aren't close friends. I think anything outside of a little extra conversational kindness (between you and kid, or kid to kid) when the opportunities arise would invite serious awkwardness.

I was surprised she even told me since we don’t know one another well. I invited a few kids over for a play date and she was telling me. I do not think she has a lot of support, which is why I thought I should try to help her.

Should I try to have child over for another play date?

My child has much closer friends but still likes the other girl. At another child’s birthday party, the other girl came up to me and told me that my child is her best friend so I do think the other girl likes my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 7yo daughter has a friend whose parents are divorcing. The mom had told me at the end of the school year that the dad was leaving her. Today at drop off the kids and mom were crying.

Is there anything I can do?

We are not close friends. Our kids are also not close friends. They were in the same class last year but separate classes this year.

No. There is nothing for you to do particularly since neither you nor your kids are freinds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 7yo daughter has a friend whose parents are divorcing. The mom had told me at the end of the school year that the dad was leaving her. Today at drop off the kids and mom were crying.

Is there anything I can do?

We are not close friends. Our kids are also not close friends. They were in the same class last year but separate classes this year.

This is inappropriate; you should not do anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're not close friends. The kids aren't close friends. I think anything outside of a little extra conversational kindness (between you and kid, or kid to kid) when the opportunities arise would invite serious awkwardness.

I was surprised she even told me since we don’t know one another well. I invited a few kids over for a play date and she was telling me. I do not think she has a lot of support, which is why I thought I should try to help her.

Should I try to have child over for another play date?

My child has much closer friends but still likes the other girl. At another child’s birthday party, the other girl came up to me and told me that my child is her best friend so I do think the other girl likes my child.

Her telling you is irrelevant. You should not be involving yourself or do anything at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're not close friends. The kids aren't close friends. I think anything outside of a little extra conversational kindness (between you and kid, or kid to kid) when the opportunities arise would invite serious awkwardness.

I was surprised she even told me since we don’t know one another well. I invited a few kids over for a play date and she was telling me. I do not think she has a lot of support, which is why I thought I should try to help her.

Should I try to have child over for another play date?

My child has much closer friends but still likes the other girl. At another child’s birthday party, the other girl came up to me and told me that my child is her best friend so I do think the other girl likes my child.

Her telling you is irrelevant. You should not be involving yourself or do anything at all.

Ok will not do anything. The kids and mom looked so upset this morning. Her younger child was hysterical.

[Anonymous]

Inviting her kid over for another play date is a great idea. And it does sound like the mom is lonely and needs support; there is nothing wrong with asking if you can support her in any way. I think that this is kind of you to show care, particularly because the mom let you into her confidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Inviting her kid over for another play date is a great idea. And it does sound like the mom is lonely and needs support; there is nothing wrong with asking if you can support her in any way. I think that this is kind of you to show care, particularly because the mom let you into her confidence.

Absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're not close friends. The kids aren't close friends. I think anything outside of a little extra conversational kindness (between you and kid, or kid to kid) when the opportunities arise would invite serious awkwardness.

I was surprised she even told me since we don’t know one another well. I invited a few kids over for a play date and she was telling me. I do not think she has a lot of support, which is why I thought I should try to help her.

Should I try to have child over for another play date?

My child has much closer friends but still likes the other girl. At another child’s birthday party, the other girl came up to me and told me that my child is her best friend so I do think the other girl likes my child.

Her telling you is irrelevant. You should not be involving yourself or do anything at all.

Ok will not do anything. The kids and mom looked so upset this morning. Her younger child was hysterical.

I disagree entirely and don’t see what the problem is. The mom told you about it. The kids are friendly. You can be kind and helpful without involving yourself in the specifics.

[Anonymous]

I disagree with the do-nothing poster. She reached out and they are struggling. I think it’s appropriate to check in with her conversationally or be more generous with invitations for her/the kid. I don’t think you can fix their problems, but I think it would be kind to be a little more available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're not close friends. The kids aren't close friends. I think anything outside of a little extra conversational kindness (between you and kid, or kid to kid) when the opportunities arise would invite serious awkwardness.

I was surprised she even told me since we don’t know one another well. I invited a few kids over for a play date and she was telling me. I do not think she has a lot of support, which is why I thought I should try to help her.

Should I try to have child over for another play date?

My child has much closer friends but still likes the other girl. At another child’s birthday party, the other girl came up to me and told me that my child is her best friend so I do think the other girl likes my child.

Her telling you is irrelevant. You should not be involving yourself or do anything at all.

Ok will not do anything. The kids and mom looked so upset this morning. Her younger child was hysterical.

More so why you need to stay out of it. Behave in the way as if you would have in the past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inviting her kid over for another play date is a great idea. And it does sound like the mom is lonely and needs support; there is nothing wrong with asking if you can support her in any way. I think that this is kind of you to show care, particularly because the mom let you into her confidence.

Absolutely not.

^^ Such a weird take. Do not listen to this person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with the do-nothing poster. She reached out and they are struggling. I think it’s appropriate to check in with her conversationally or be more generous with invitations for her/the kid. I don’t think you can fix their problems, but I think it would be kind to be a little more available.

OP had been available and has invited the girl. This is not an area that she should “help” any more than she has.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inviting her kid over for another play date is a great idea. And it does sound like the mom is lonely and needs support; there is nothing wrong with asking if you can support her in any way. I think that this is kind of you to show care, particularly because the mom let you into her confidence.

Absolutely not.

^^ Such a weird take. Do not listen to this person.

Not a weird take; it’s the right thing for both sides. Don’t be so pollyannaish.