Toxic Masculinity

[Anonymous]

If you believe that toxic masculinity is a real thing, what are your thoughts on how to address it? Besides raising boys better what can we do? How do you confront it when it presents itself in your life?

[Anonymous]

Treating anger issues and rejection early on

I had a boss who we learned had been arrested for assault years prior. He consistently berated myself and other colleagues and yet he was allowed to remain at the job despite this previous arrest. Large corporation local to the DMV.

[Anonymous]

How do you define “toxic masculinity”?

[Anonymous]

I feel conservative women do a lot to enforce it too, frankly. They often judge men for being insufficiently "manly."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you define “toxic masculinity”?

The term “toxic masculinity” points to a particular version of masculinity that is unhealthy for the men and boys who conform to it, and harmful for those around them.

The phrase emphasises the worst aspects of stereotypically masculine attributes. Toxic masculinity is represented by qualities such as violence, dominance, emotional illiteracy, sexual entitlement, and hostility to femininity.

[Anonymous]

I don't look at the world through a preemptively sexist lens. I teach my kids to be kind and strong and to use their brains.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you define “toxic masculinity”?

The term “toxic masculinity” points to a particular version of masculinity that is unhealthy for the men and boys who conform to it, and harmful for those around them.

The phrase emphasises the worst aspects of stereotypically masculine attributes. Toxic masculinity is represented by qualities such as violence, dominance, emotional illiteracy, sexual entitlement, and hostility to femininity.

That’s a very dry, nonspecific, clinical sounding definition.

What does it look like IRL? In practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you define “toxic masculinity”?

The term “toxic masculinity” points to a particular version of masculinity that is unhealthy for the men and boys who conform to it, and harmful for those around them.

The phrase emphasises the worst aspects of stereotypically masculine attributes. Toxic masculinity is represented by qualities such as violence, dominance, emotional illiteracy, sexual entitlement, and hostility to femininity.

That’s a very dry, nonspecific, clinical sounding definition.

What does it look like IRL? In practice.

Rape, domestic violence, men not going to therapy when they should, men not being able to talk about or identify their emotions, believing housework is women’s work, believing child rearing is women’s work, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you define “toxic masculinity”?

The term “toxic masculinity” points to a particular version of masculinity that is unhealthy for the men and boys who conform to it, and harmful for those around them.

The phrase emphasises the worst aspects of stereotypically masculine attributes. Toxic masculinity is represented by qualities such as violence, dominance, emotional illiteracy, sexual entitlement, and hostility to femininity.

That’s a very dry, nonspecific, clinical sounding definition.

What does it look like IRL? In practice.

Seriously, PP? You can't think of men who have violent tendencies, a dominant personality, no way to connect to emotions like sadness, empathy, etc., believe they are entitled to sex, and dislike women who exhibit behaviors and beliefs that don't feed the male ego?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you define “toxic masculinity”?

The term “toxic masculinity” points to a particular version of masculinity that is unhealthy for the men and boys who conform to it, and harmful for those around them.

The phrase emphasises the worst aspects of stereotypically masculine attributes. Toxic masculinity is represented by qualities such as violence, dominance, emotional illiteracy, sexual entitlement, and hostility to femininity.

That’s a very dry, nonspecific, clinical sounding definition.

What does it look like IRL? In practice.

Seriously, PP? You can't think of men who have violent tendencies, a dominant personality, no way to connect to emotions like sadness, empathy, etc., believe they are entitled to sex, and dislike women who exhibit behaviors and beliefs that don't feed the male ego?

No, I can’t. No one I’ve ever dated has thought sexual assault or rape was a-ok. I’ve never been hit by a man outside of a dojo or boxing ring. My husband does dishes, changed diapers on our kids, and knows how to use a sewing machine, despite being very much the typical cliched “hyper masculine guy” - combat vet, MMA fighter, rides motorcycles, watches sports, generally gives off aggressive a-hole vibes to people who don’t know him, lol. Every one of you would probably say he’s a poster boy for toxic masculinity by his appearance. So is he? Because I don’t believe he is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you define “toxic masculinity”?

The term “toxic masculinity” points to a particular version of masculinity that is unhealthy for the men and boys who conform to it, and harmful for those around them.

The phrase emphasises the worst aspects of stereotypically masculine attributes. Toxic masculinity is represented by qualities such as violence, dominance, emotional illiteracy, sexual entitlement, and hostility to femininity.

That’s a very dry, nonspecific, clinical sounding definition.

What does it look like IRL? In practice.

Rape, domestic violence, men not going to therapy when they should, men not being able to talk about or identify their emotions, believing housework is women’s work, believing child rearing is women’s work, etc.

If this is the definition then my experience with toxic masculinity is minimal at most and I’m definitely not worried about my boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you define “toxic masculinity”?

The term “toxic masculinity” points to a particular version of masculinity that is unhealthy for the men and boys who conform to it, and harmful for those around them.

The phrase emphasises the worst aspects of stereotypically masculine attributes. Toxic masculinity is represented by qualities such as violence, dominance, emotional illiteracy, sexual entitlement, and hostility to femininity.

That’s a very dry, nonspecific, clinical sounding definition.

What does it look like IRL? In practice.

Seriously, PP? You can't think of men who have violent tendencies, a dominant personality, no way to connect to emotions like sadness, empathy, etc., believe they are entitled to sex, and dislike women who exhibit behaviors and beliefs that don't feed the male ego?

No, I can’t. No one I’ve ever dated has thought sexual assault or rape was a-ok. I’ve never been hit by a man outside of a dojo or boxing ring. My husband does dishes, changed diapers on our kids, and knows how to use a sewing machine, despite being very much the typical cliched “hyper masculine guy” - combat vet, MMA fighter, rides motorcycles, watches sports, generally gives off aggressive a-hole vibes to people who don’t know him, lol. Every one of you would probably say he’s a poster boy for toxic masculinity by his appearance. So is he? Because I don’t believe he is.

Of course not. toxic masculinity isn’t about appearance it’s about behavior. not ALL men are toxic. Your DH sounds great. But not everyone is like that.

[Anonymous]

I remember telling my now adult son to treat women the way he would want men to treat his sisters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you define “toxic masculinity”?

Quick to physically fight inability to walk away

Thinking threat of. Violence is a strong way to control others especially women and children

Inability to show care/empathy/sadness because they think it’s a sign of weakness

Dealing with frustration by breaking things and people

Inability to listen to others side because they need to control others through intimidation

I mean I can go on do you need me to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you define “toxic masculinity”?

The term “toxic masculinity” points to a particular version of masculinity that is unhealthy for the men and boys who conform to it, and harmful for those around them.

The phrase emphasises the worst aspects of stereotypically masculine attributes. Toxic masculinity is represented by qualities such as violence, dominance, emotional illiteracy, sexual entitlement, and hostility to femininity.

That’s a very dry, nonspecific, clinical sounding definition.

What does it look like IRL? In practice.

Seriously, PP? You can't think of men who have violent tendencies, a dominant personality, no way to connect to emotions like sadness, empathy, etc., believe they are entitled to sex, and dislike women who exhibit behaviors and beliefs that don't feed the male ego?

No, I can’t. No one I’ve ever dated has thought sexual assault or rape was a-ok. I’ve never been hit by a man outside of a dojo or boxing ring. My husband does dishes, changed diapers on our kids, and knows how to use a sewing machine, despite being very much the typical cliched “hyper masculine guy” - combat vet, MMA fighter, rides motorcycles, watches sports, generally gives off aggressive a-hole vibes to people who don’t know him, lol. Every one of you would probably say he’s a poster boy for toxic masculinity by his appearance. So is he? Because I don’t believe he is.

No he’s not

Youre obtuse


And if you don’t know 1 friend who was sexually assaulted it simply means your Friends don’t trust you enough to share that type thing with you. Possibly your toxic.