Fake names on apps

[Anonymous]

Should giving a fake name on an app be a dealbreaker? Or do you think it’s reasonable for a man to want privacy?

[Anonymous]

What are the circumstances? Like they have a fake name on the profile and when you start chatting they let you know their real name and how they use a fake one for privacy? Or like you have been dating for several months and you find out his name isn't his name? Something in between?

I think context is everything here.

[Anonymous]

I agree with more context. For example, going by TJ instead of Thomas Jeffery is no big deal. Going by TJ when his real name is Stewart Little is very weird.

But I get not wanting to be "too visible" or googleable when talking to/meeting randos.

[Anonymous]

There absolutely no need or reason to expect a real name before you start 1:1 chatting. As long they tell you it's an alias before you start chatting, and the real name comes up before the first in person meetup, so you can do your background research, it's fine.

[Anonymous]

Plenty of women use fake names on the apps.

[Anonymous]

I used to use a slightly different name, think Lea instead of Leyla. Once we started chatting, I would sign my actual first name.

[Anonymous]

Idk if it's a deal breaker but as a woman I never give my legal name on apps. I doubt most people with more ethnic names do anyway. I go by the name my closest friends and family call me by and I never tell anyone my legal name til we meet. They of course assume I give my legal name but whatever. Nothing is real on the apps.

[Anonymous]

In my experience, every man who I chatted with from an app who was using a fake name was married.

Except for one who was a cop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, every man who I chatted with from an app who was using a fake name was married.

Except for one who was a cop.

Well it's sad but yes many guys on old are still married in general.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Guy gave a completely fake name on app. Once he had my number he told me his real name. He is for sure not married.

All of the guys I've gone out who've lied other profiles, turned out to be deceitful. Usually they lie about age. This is first lie about name I've encountered.

[Anonymous]

I'd say the opposite is true in this day and age - if you don't have an online alias my assumption is that you are a bit of a naïve bumpkin.

Now, this all needs to be transparent if you're going to meet but an alias in this day and age is a must if you're smart.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely use fake name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Idk if it's a deal breaker but as a woman I never give my legal name on apps. I doubt most people with more ethnic names do anyway. I go by the name my closest friends and family call me by and I never tell anyone my legal name til we meet. They of course assume I give my legal name but whatever. Nothing is real on the apps.

Yep, I gave my “Starbucks name”, Maria; my real name is something like Marillen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'd say the opposite is true in this day and age - if you don't have an online alias my assumption is that you are a bit of a naïve bumpkin.

Now, this all needs to be transparent if you're going to meet but an alias in this day and age is a must if you're smart.

Why would it be transparent if it's a nickname friends and family call me? Am I absolutely obligated to give a name I dislike that is my legal name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of women use fake names on the apps.

Yup. Just safer that way.