What makes couples break up after having a baby?

[Anonymous]

I’ve met two recent men who have left their kids after being married and having a kid. Like quickly, kid is born in February and then come March they are out partying with the boys.

I’m completely perplexed by this behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve met two recent men who have left their kids after being married and having a kid. Like quickly, kid is born in February and then come March they are out partying with the boys.

I’m completely perplexed by this behavior.

A-holes with Peter Pan syndrome.

[Anonymous]

It turns out that a baby causes stress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve met two recent men who have left their kids after being married and having a kid. Like quickly, kid is born in February and then come March they are out partying with the boys.

I’m completely perplexed by this behavior.

A-holes with Peter Pan syndrome.

Interesting makes sense. My husband says it means the man is abandoning his responsibility and is weak in character.

Women are less likely to do this because of how hard it is right after a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I know a woman who moved halfway across the country when her child was two. Without the child. What is your point?

Without the child is bad. Same with women though. That’s not a common thing to do. Does she ever see her child?

[Anonymous]

Men do this for higher paying jobs all the time.

[Anonymous]

Physical violence, alcoholism, drug abuse, long-standing or repeat infidelity. Those are the reasons.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the relationship was already in trouble, and the baby was a Hail Mary, or worse, a trap by the woman to try to keep him from leaving. It seems very sudden and unusual to leave a wanted baby after one month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It turns out that a baby causes stress.

+1 Having had babies, this is not really perplexing. Lots of people aren’t mature enough to handle the responsibilities. Particularly men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Physical violence, alcoholism, drug abuse, long-standing or repeat infidelity. Those are the reasons.

3 of the 4 factors mentioned above were at play in my marriage/separation from ex-DH when kid was a baby. I was not guilty of any of them.

[Anonymous]

I knew a couple that decided to have a baby to "save" their marriage.
Incredibly bad idea, and it didn't work.

[Anonymous]

The man not wanting to be a parent or being unable to cope with the stress

The woman realizing that he is a man-baby and now that she has an actual baby she is no longer willing to put up with him and carry the load of being his mommy. Total loss of respect.

Anyway, I would de-friend them right away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve met two recent men who have left their kids after being married and having a kid. Like quickly, kid is born in February and then come March they are out partying with the boys.

I’m completely perplexed by this behavior.

What do you mean left their kids? They’re already divorced and have no custody arrangement with a literal newborn? Or they’re literally just going outside and hanging out with their friends a month postpartum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew a couple that decided to have a baby to "save" their marriage.
Incredibly bad idea, and it didn't work.

My ex h forced a baby with this stupid rationale.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve met two recent men who have left their kids after being married and having a kid. Like quickly, kid is born in February and then come March they are out partying with the boys.

I’m completely perplexed by this behavior.

Weird.

Usually the Baby Daddy’s don’t ever get married first, before abandoning pregnant girlfriends or newborns