Husband is impossible

[Anonymous]

I’ll start by saying I am pregnant right now and physically things are getting harder and harder. I have asked dh to replace the door stoppers several times now. I ordered replacements that are more secure from Amazon 2 months ago. A few weeks ago he attempted but decided he might stump his toe and doesn’t want them there anymore. I said he needs to figure out how to fix the baseboard then because there is a huge hole and it would be easier to just replace them. He didn’t look into options. Today I attempted to replace them myself but let’s just say it wasn’t successful. I couldn’t get the right angle with my bump. I asked my 8 year old to help hold a part for him and dh is just sitting on the sofa. I was so livid. We also have this bidet sprayer that has been damaging the wall and damaging the wood floors so I said let’s switch to one that has the bidet spray in the toilet seat. Dh refuses to switch and says it’s a waste of money blah blah blah. We just moved into a new construction townhouse. Why would you want to damage the walls and the wood floors just so you can keep this cheap $20 sprayer to clean your ass? Makes no sense and I just paid to wall paper the powder room so the kids will end up damaging it again if we don’t replace the sprayer. These things seem so small and most people wouldn’t need to spend so much time discussing what’s right, what to do etc. Dh ended up leaving and hasn’t been home in several hours. I feel his perceptions are off or something. In the future I think it makes sense to hire someone and stop discussing these things. Dh also loves to say I do decor stuff without him but he has zero ideas. His idea is literally to do nothing. He got so angry because I wanted to change the kitchen knobs last year. I wanted to upgrade our builder kitchen to make it more modern … we have brown cabinets and the options the builders gave us were minimum. I spent $50 on black and brass knobs and pulls and they look great. He loves to tell people I did everything and give me credit when they see our house. It doesn’t make sense and when we were picking finishes for the house he had no interest. He said he doesn’t care and I’m better at choosing. Our house wouldn’t have art or anything on the walls of dh was in charge of decor. The furniture would be brown or navy and mostly likely there would be no rugs anywhere in the house except the bathrooms. He knows I love decorating. He just wants to take a dig at me because he’s mad.

[Anonymous]

If you talk the way you write, I can see why your DH has trouble functioning.

Paragraphs are your friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you talk the way you write, I can see why your DH has trouble functioning.

Paragraphs are your friend.

Amen. I’d stab myself in the ears if I had to listen to you all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you talk the way you write, I can see why your DH has trouble functioning.

Paragraphs are your friend.

I swear there is always someone on here saying this. Move on if you don’t have anything positive to contribute. She’s obviously upset and not thinking about grammar and pleasing you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you talk the way you write, I can see why your DH has trouble functioning.

Paragraphs are your friend.

I swear there is always someone on here saying this. Move on if you don’t have anything positive to contribute. She’s obviously upset and not thinking about grammar and pleasing you.

People say this because it's relevant.

Communication is important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you talk the way you write, I can see why your DH has trouble functioning.

Paragraphs are your friend.

I swear there is always someone on here saying this. Move on if you don’t have anything positive to contribute. She’s obviously upset and not thinking about grammar and pleasing you.

People say this because it's relevant.

Communication is important.

Yeah okay PP move on… find something else to complain about on another post. It looks like you enjoy that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you talk the way you write, I can see why your DH has trouble functioning.

Paragraphs are your friend.

I swear there is always someone on here saying this. Move on if you don’t have anything positive to contribute. She’s obviously upset and not thinking about grammar and pleasing you.

People say this because it's relevant.

Communication is important.

Yeah okay PP move on… find something else to complain about on another post. It looks like you enjoy that.

You have nothing useful for the OP.

Why not?

[Anonymous]

Stub. Not stump

[Anonymous]

She sounds hormonal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll start by saying I am pregnant right now and physically things are getting harder and harder.

I have asked dh to replace the door stoppers several times now. I ordered replacements that are more secure from Amazon 2 months ago. A few weeks ago he attempted but decided he might stump his toe and doesn’t want them there anymore. I said he needs to figure out how to fix the baseboard then because there is a huge hole and it would be easier to just replace them. He didn’t look into options. Today I attempted to replace them myself but let’s just say it wasn’t successful. I couldn’t get the right angle with my bump. I asked my 8 year old to help hold a part for him and dh is just sitting on the sofa. I was so livid.

We also have this bidet sprayer that has been damaging the wall and damaging the wood floors so I said let’s switch to one that has the bidet spray in the toilet seat. Dh refuses to switch and says it’s a waste of money blah blah blah. We just moved into a new construction townhouse. Why would you want to damage the walls and the wood floors just so you can keep this cheap $20 sprayer to clean your ass? Makes no sense and I just paid to wall paper the powder room so the kids will end up damaging it again if we don’t replace the sprayer.

These things seem so small and most people wouldn’t need to spend so much time discussing what’s right, what to do etc.

Dh ended up leaving and hasn’t been home in several hours. I feel his perceptions are off or something.

In the future I think it makes sense to hire someone and stop discussing these things.

Dh also loves to say I do decor stuff without him but he has zero ideas. His idea is literally to do nothing. He got so angry because I wanted to change the kitchen knobs last year. I wanted to upgrade our builder kitchen to make it more modern … we have brown cabinets and the options the builders gave us were minimum. I spent $50 on black and brass knobs and pulls and they look great. He loves to tell people I did everything and give me credit when they see our house. It doesn’t make sense and when we were picking finishes for the house he had no interest. He said he doesn’t care and I’m better at choosing.

Our house wouldn’t have art or anything on the walls of dh was in charge of decor. The furniture would be brown or navy and mostly likely there would be no rugs anywhere in the house except the bathrooms. He knows I love decorating. He just wants to take a dig at me because he’s mad.

He sounds like a do-nothing loser. Or misogynist or both.

Don’t have more than one kid. He already is your second one.

And keep your job and career and friend group going. Forever.

[Anonymous]

Don’t get a bigger house, he sounds very confused, ignorant, lazy and useless as a homeowner. Yikes

[Anonymous]

I am very handy because I learned from my dad from a young age. I am not sure if the same can be said about today's men. I watched a show on YouTube where a guy goes around asking a bunch of men in their 20s if they ever replaced a light bulb. Let me say it was shocking. He also asks a bunch of other basic things they couldn't do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very handy because I learned from my dad from a young age. I am not sure if the same can be said about today's men. I watched a show on YouTube where a guy goes around asking a bunch of men in their 20s if they ever replaced a light bulb. Let me say it was shocking. He also asks a bunch of other basic things they couldn't do it.

Op here. He tries and he’s good at something when it’s his idea. A door stopper is pretty easy to install. He actually installed it later after I left. I left after the argument and went to home depot and found a stick on door stopper. I came home and the door stoppers were all installed. It’s not always about the little thing that needs to be done. I think he doesn’t like doing stuff that’s not his idea and he doesn’t have a lot of thoughts about repairing and decorating the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very handy because I learned from my dad from a young age. I am not sure if the same can be said about today's men. I watched a show on YouTube where a guy goes around asking a bunch of men in their 20s if they ever replaced a light bulb. Let me say it was shocking. He also asks a bunch of other basic things they couldn't do it.

Same. My father and brothers put to shame everyone I dated and eventually married. Engines, home repairs, plumbing, drywall, landscaping, painting.

It’s like he never paid attention to anything going on anywhere; even when paid repairmen or the home inspector were talking to us. He learned nothing. He missed their tips. He couldn’t connect the dots.

It’s like they cannot learn. Which is scary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very handy because I learned from my dad from a young age. I am not sure if the same can be said about today's men. I watched a show on YouTube where a guy goes around asking a bunch of men in their 20s if they ever replaced a light bulb. Let me say it was shocking. He also asks a bunch of other basic things they couldn't do it.

How do young women find a mate? That is such a turnoff.