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This sounds really bad -- but I hate volunteering at my child's private school
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Anonymous
| I've never felt awkward in my life...class president, lawyer, successful husband, gorgeous kid, etc. But, I went to my DD's school to volunteer and felt like the mean girls were sizing me up. I've never had that experience in high school or work...why now? Anyone else hate volunteering at your kid's school? |
Anonymous
| Absolutely can't stand it. I pick and choose the things where I'm comfy. I stay away from the Auction and the Parent's Association events. I stay in the classroom and help out with admissions. |
Anonymous
Troll... |
Anonymous
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I have always been shy, so I knew I would not volunteer for anything that requires public speaking or too much mingling.
If you want to help, you will always find something low-key. |
Anonymous
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"Absolutely can't stand it. I pick and choose the things where I'm comfy. I stay away from the Auction and the Parent's Association events."
Ditto. Life is too short to worry about the bitches, Queen Bees and cliques. Water seeks its own level. For a very good reason. |
Anonymous
I swear, if one more person who didn't get online until the 21st century misuses internet lingo on here, I am going to stab myself in the eye with a fork. Okay, I probably won't, but I want to every time. |
Anonymous
| Thank you pp because I'm OP and my post is really serious. I'm surprised I've never experienced the QB behavior before in my entire life and I'm middle-aged. I've gained some lbs. some I'm a little sensitive about getting "the look" from the preppy moms. |
Anonymous
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Stick with the classroom activities. That's all that I do.
And, yes, the person who calls troll every time she doesn't like a post is getting really annoying. |
Anonymous
| I'm pretty shy too even though people think I'm really extroverted. The mom cliques make me feel uncomfortable. I feel more comfortable talking to the dads. |
Anonymous
| OP, I hear ya. The mom cliques make me question the whole decision to send DD to her school, and I am otherwise thrilled with the school. I volunteer for discrete projects where there aren't a lot of other moms around. PP is right that things like auctions bring out the worst of them. |
Anonymous
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"OP, I hear ya. The mom cliques make me question the whole decision to send DD to her school, and I am otherwise thrilled with the school. I volunteer for discrete projects where there aren't a lot of other moms around. PP is right that things like auctions bring out the worst of them. "
Since the bitches tend to travel in packs, it's easy to identify & avoid them and their turf.s. That's why I stay away from "Galas" and other pretentious crap. |
Anonymous
| This has not been my experience. What do these women do that is so offensive? |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't say I hate it but its not may favorite thing. The other mom's don't bother me really. As long as they smile, nod and say hello, I'm good. I admit - I am usually looking at my Blackberry half the time anyway and just itching to get the whole thing over with. |
Anonymous
| There are women who will NOT smile, nod, and say hello. That's their way of excluding someone, just as the mean girls do in school. Very childish, I know, but the rejection does hurt a little bit. I don't care that much, though, as I was never in the "in" crowd in high school and don't expect to be now, as an adult. |
Anonymous
| Does anyone think that volunteering might earn brownie points with the staff and teachers and thus benefit their DC? I wonder how many people volunteer with this "ulterior" motive. I think of a former PTA president whose son got into Harvard; would he have gotten as good a rec if his mom hadn't been the premiere volunteer? I also think of a board member whose son is not distinguished by any awards, not even the "citizenship" awards. I admit to hedging my bets. But I would volunteer, even if it didn't help DC a bit but only helped the school. |