Extensive time off after parental death
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Anonymous
| What is the longest you have had a direct report or a co-worker take off after a parental death? After the bereavement leave, after all their sick time, vacation time and starting to take pay without leave. What's reasonable here? What is everyone's experience with this? I recently lost a parent and took my companies allotted bereavement time and thats it. This is starting to feel excessive. |
Anonymous
| I had a coworker/friend take off 3 weeks. It was a pretty traumatic death and she witnessed it. I had another coworker take off 6 weeks when her 80 year old mother died of a 5 year battle with cancer. Given other issues with this coworker I suspect she struggles with some mental health issues and her mom's death made it worse. |
Anonymous
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What feels excessive to you? How long have they been off?
If they are the executor of the parent's estate, there could be a lot of things to take care of. |
Anonymous
| A family member's mother died (family member is in early 40s) suddenly recently. She took a month off I believe to plan funeral, start getting things in order. |
Anonymous
| You aren't paying them for this leave, what's the problem? Don't gatekeep grief. Just because you didn't GAF about your parent and were over it super quick doesn't mean everyone else is the same. |
Anonymous
| How many days has the employee been out of work so far? Can they give you an idea of when they return? |
Anonymous
| Whatever the FMLA max is. The person could be suffering depression. |
Anonymous
| A few weeks and then slow return back to work = telework a few days a week, ramping back up to regular full time after about 5 weeks. |
Anonymous
| Are you complaining about a direct report or are you resentful about a colleague? |
Anonymous
| there could be a lot going on you're not aware of (and that's none of work's business). maybe having to clean out and sell a house, for instance. |
Anonymous
i mean if they're on leave without pay, it's sort of work's business in terms of -- when are you coming back? |
Anonymous
they have to apply for fmla and have it approved then, the boss cant do anything until they apply |
Anonymous
| You should mind your own business. Circumstances differ. A friend's mom died suddenly along with other family members in a car accident. She needed to return to her home state, deal not only with the grief of losing her last parent, but also other relatives all while navigating a police investigation, making arrangements as an only child, and dealing with the estate. It was exhaustive and continued even after she returned from out of state. She took three weeks but I wouldn't have thought ill had she taken more. |
Anonymous
| Who cares? If they have the leave it makes sense to use it. I regret leaving companies with unused leave. |
Anonymous
| 3 months. Company did not consider this excessive. Told employee to take as much time as needed. This is a beloved employee, so other staff did not mind picking up the slack. And would have continued as long as needed. |