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Anonymous
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How old were you when you got married, how much was the wedding, and who paid?
If parents, did they also provide money or down payment for house? Did you feel guilty accepting the money? s/o from other thread of person with three daughters - though I don't think she will have an accurate gauge based on economy/inflation/etc. |
Anonymous
| I was 32, DH 33, and we paid for it ourselves. It was small -- cost about $15K all total. |
Anonymous
| I was 36, DH 34 in 2006. Wedding cost $50 (not a big wedding about 100 people, but very nice one) and we split the cost 50/50 and paid for it ourselves. DH's parents gave us a VERY Nice rehearsal dinner (like a small wedding). We both are older and more stablished than when we were in our 20s, but if we were not, we probably would ask his parents to give us that money or most of it instead of throwing us a fabulus party. |
Anonymous
I'm glad you and your DH were able to save up for the $50 wedding without having to ask your parents for help! You should be proud of yourselves for each contributing $25 towards your wedding and doing it all by yourself 
I was 26 and DH was 29 when we married. We paid for the majority of it by ourselves (at least 90%) and the total was between $15,000 and $18,000. |
Anonymous
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Both 24 in 2005.
Wedding cost $35K - my parents $20K, DH's parents $10K, us $5K. We are still renting so no down payment yet, although DH's dad will probably give us $10K. I had issues taking money from my parents bc I know they struggle with money regularly. Although they hjad just come into a reasonably large sum of money, and they assured me it was enough for the wedding and their other bills. We tried to keep the wedding as low cost and managable. I know $30K sounds like a lot but we had 200 people (split equally amoung parents' friends and our friends) and we had kosher catering, which gives us limited choices and tends to be more expensive. We will help our children both sons and daughters with their wedding, if we have the means to do so. |
Anonymous
Yeah, this is creepy, but word for word same as us. And no, I don't think my hubby lurks in these forums. |
Anonymous
| We married at 26. It cost about $10,000 for a nice brunch for 120 people. I split the cost with my parents. My DH's parents paid for a very nice rehersal dinner for about 50 people. |
Anonymous
| We married at 28. Wedding cost 18K. My mom and dad gave $2500, as did his. We paid the remainder ourselves. We paid for our own down payment. |
Anonymous
We also did not have a rehearsal dinner and paid for our own honeymoon, approx 6 months later. |
Anonymous
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5K DH paid for it.
I was 28 He was 30. We don't intend to own a house in the US so no need to ask for money from parents. We both own properties in our respective home countries. DH owns a house in the city and just land in the country side. I own a house in the country side. |
Anonymous
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I was 29 and he was 27. Our wedding cost about $16K. My parents paid $10K and I paid $6K. I don't know what the rehearsal dinner cost, which his parents paid for. He paid for the honeymoon and the downpayment on our house, which I moved into about five months before the wedding and he moved in after the wedding. We both come from pretty traditional families. When we called to tell my parents I was engaged, my dad told me what he planned to contribute. There was no discussion, and I never would have insulted him by refusing the money. He also offered me $500 to elope as a joke (this became a running joke during the planning, as did my husband's boss's frequent newspaper clippings of tacky weddings that he offered as suggestions). It was a fun, lovely time in our relationship, and we didn't feel weird about the money, or the jokes, or the parties thrown for us by many friends and friends of our parents. It had a small town old-fashioned vibe that was actually nice, although I realize that may sound provincial to the DCUM mavens.
Oh, and for the psychologist lurking on the other thread - still married 14 years with two girls of our own who do have wedding/grad school/house funds as well as college funds. |
Anonymous
| Both 28 and the wedding 19K. DH parents put in 7K and we paid the rest. We paid for the downpayment for our house ourselves. Mom did give me encouragement to own a home - and being able to do that when I was 25 made a difference in what we could afford once I was married. During the height of the market we had 100K downpayment from selling the townhouse to put towards a new home. Had I waited until we were married to purchase anything - timing being what it was we would have ended up buying at the top of the market for the first home and not able to move. So while I am not one to turn money down - I do think it has been just as important that our parents have been there for us - my mom came down to help me look at properties when I was buying my first home, my husband's family helped us paint when we bought the house after being married, my in-laws have offered to pay for a Disneyworld vacation with the kids. For us anyway, I think of gifts as just that - those extra things we probably wouldn't do for ourselves that the extra money enables us to do. I don't feel guilty because there is no expectation that they would do anything except perhaps talk to us at least every other week and try to see us at least once a year/during holidays so we are very appreciative that they are in the position to help us - be it with money, sage advice, or time to help us out with the kids or things around the house. |
Anonymous
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Both 29. Wedding cost $7k, honeymoon $7,500. Paid for everything ourselves in cash, except my wedding dress which my parents bought (about $700). In-laws hosted nice rehearsal dinner, don't know what they paid. Didn't want to ask my parents for $ because they were still paying 2 college tuitions for my younger siblings.
Bought house on our own, no money from parents, although my fab dad did come over and paint. |
Anonymous
| What about you OP? How old were you? And how much did you or whomever spend? |
Anonymous
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"How old were you when you got married, how much was the wedding, and who paid?"
31, over $18K, my parents "If parents, did they also provide money or down payment for house?" No. I bought my first house with my own money at 27. "Did you feel guilty accepting the money?" No (?) |