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Do you think it's poor form to date someone while not yet divorced, but separated?
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Anonymous
| thoughts? |
Anonymous
| Yes |
Anonymous
| No. If you’re serious about divorcing then it’s fine. |
Anonymous
| No, I don't think there is anything wrong with that. |
Anonymous
| Yes |
Anonymous
| yes |
Anonymous
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If you are honest about your situation and motivations, it could be fine for the right person.
In my experience, it is a terrible idea for the person dating you. Been there, done that. Wasted my time. There’s usually some drama, and/or the person is looking for a rebound. The chances are slim the separated person has actually emotionally healed and have everything in order to commit to someone new. Plus, in this area you’re legally married until you’re divorced. There are potential implications to that and I, for one, would pass. |
Anonymous
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Depends on where in the process and if you want hookups or a serious relationship.
Divorce can take a year or more, and sometimes the marriage was over for years before the legal process begins. |
Anonymous
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I am a woman who is separated, not yet divorced. I am currently dating, and now completely understand why the conventional wisdom is to not date anyone until they are divorced. People are a mess when they are in the midst of a divorce.
I am having a lot of fun, and learning about myself and what I want in a partner now compared to before I got married 15 years ago. But I am in no way looking for anything other than someone fun to make me feel special and desired while my life is in this holding pattern during a huge transition. Most people I know in a similar situation feel the same way. |
Anonymous
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I was asked out once by a guy who wanted to work things out with his wife (that was his desire), but he was lining up dates with his single co-workers as a Plan B.
Seriously, he came to my office to share that strategy, even though we had had minimal work interactions before then. 😳 |
Anonymous
| YES |
Anonymous
| Yes, it's tacky AF. Separated people should go to therapy, not join dating apps. |
Anonymous
Agree. I wouldn’t ever do it myself and would absolutely not consider dating anyone separated. No exceptions. |
Anonymous
| No, it's fine as long as it's clearly expressed right from the start. |
Anonymous
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Yes, very poor form.
Dont date while married and dont date married people. |